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StrontiumDog

Very true. Certainly the UK is far from perfect...!

helge

I'll give you my record of money lending/giving to my wifes relatives here. This is a 5 year span:
Paid old debt for MIL 20000 Baht
Paid old debt in land and small house we lived in for 1 year 52000(5000 went to build a bathroom for BIL's family; didn't have any).
Unfortunately the builders placed our new home partly on the wrong address , but luckily her sister lived there, so another 100000 up and we bought her a new piece of land and demolished her home.
Well she didn't have a 100000 to build the new home so she borrowed from me. The money came back slowly and to speed it up,I paid out her car( 33000)so that she could pay me the 7000 each month, that she used to pay for her car.
Didn't work, and she is now a maid in our home, taken care of all manual work, and I was happy with that, when the wife was pregnant and now that the dipers a piling up.
She has another few years here before she is free
No more loans that way, and she knows it.

Paid out Villagefund debt for FIL 5000Baht
Told the wife that he wasn't supposed to take another loan there. She explained that she couldn't tell him that, but she would go and take the money of he's hand. No thanks.
We won't let him starve but otherwise....
BTW Gave him a SamLaw 8000 Baht. He sold it even I have the papers on it.
No more money that way. (He is under the influence of the new wife in his life; poor bastard)

Another SIL needed a motorbike for her daughter. The monthly payments would add up to 51000 and cash is was 33000.
Easy choice. The money came in every month, and is paid back. She can borrow again and did.
She settled a debt for my SIL, who's dying

BIL and wife borrowed 10000 to settle old sin sot debt.
I doubt I'll get it back allthough she has a nice portion rais with Yangpara.
The wife is a bit grumpy, that I haven't asked for the money, but in this case I see it as a good investment.
Now I know them and they can't borrow from me again.

Apart from that, they all have jobs eventhough some are underemployed, and they use alot of their income to send their kids to "expensive" schools.
And we get along

Chairman Mao

Nah mate, I just don't consider being with overused $10 cumpipe prostitutes, as the 'finer things in life'.

As said, each to his own. No bigee.

Rigger

I see plenty of up and coming bar girls all the time in the village that would have never had a real cock in their lives,
I am sure if you paid well you could get a fresh one. I know a few Americians who came to the village and bought a couple of 16 yo girls and use to vist every few months until they were 18 yo old then married them and took them back to the states.

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Chairman Mao

A match made in heaven... the lucky buggers.

Mind you, think of the time it takes to domesticate them... and all those fork injuries and the like. Must be lovely going for a nice meal at a nice place as a 50 yr old loser and a brown, asian, uneducated teenage prostitute.

Having nothing in common with the 'wife' must be fantastic... or maybe they come from the sewer too... the finer things in life indeed.

Rigger

well it probably finer than having a 50 year fat chick jumping up and down on you , Anyway mate I think you miss the point they dont marry them for their table manners or to take them out to dinner. Are they pros if they have never worked in a bar but marry a farang for the chance of a better life for her and her family

Boon Mee

that's about right. Not everyone needs to discuss the finer points of BO's Foreign Policy (there is one?) with the old lady. Those boys want a 'wife' who will take care of them in their old age plus give ém good nookie. Fuck a bunch of high-brow conversation - they can get that down at the VFW Club!

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Chairman Mao

Yes, these are the only Western women out there... and of course meeting a Thai partner that isn't for sale is simply impossible.
Yes, more than likely it's the only curable option for their involuntary celebacy. Purchasing a human life simply so you can get to have sex, and get your dishes washed and clothes ironed too. What else could you want?

Then she is nothing but a purchasable product, like a rack of ribs in the butchers. A human bought for a couple of dollars... It is a fine, beautiful life indeed when you are buying little Asian girls.

Spitfire

Life is hard for them in Isaan, the Thais like to write poetry about but so many of them still cling onto this romantic vision of the village and home, you see it in the Thai music/karaoke videos etc. After living in an average village for a couple of years you get to understand them better. I don't blame them for wanting a better life, isn't that what everyone wants? The government does sweet FA to help or educate them so, yes, it can get a bit mercenary. I don't really like generalisations as they can be very wrong or unfair to a large section that do not fit into the negative descriptions often bandied around.

Personally my in-laws aren't too bad about it, which makes me more generous actually, and I will be reasonable, like for example, I paid for the sister-in-law to go to university for the sole reason that she was capable of getting a degree because she is smart and then she would not be a potential future problem or drain on my wife or me, potential future problem foreseen and eradicated for a small monthy allowance each month for a few years. What would the future be for her otherwise? Hang around the family home and marry scooter boy with no money? Hmmm.....nightmare senario for the wife and me. This will also enable her (sister-in-law) to help her own family and take the burden away from us. She has now got an office job in BBK and is about to marry a Thai lawyer, helps her mother and father now so I don't have to and they have no excuse to bother me. Yes, I have done the governments job for them but it was a small sacrifice.

It always costs money to get involved with a woman in one way or another, it's about whether or not you let them take the piss of not. Thais like to find out where the limit is and you should not be shy to let it be known as that's what they do.

My answer to the OP is that there is good and bad in all sections of society and all geographic areas, just have to weed through it till you find what you like.

terry57

I travelled through Issan last year for the first time and had a brilliant trip, met some great people and experienced some legit hospitality.

Could not live up there but December and January are brilliant months.

Nawty

They like rice.

DrAndy

gosh, how many was a "few"! did they argue if they came at the same time?

DrAndy

that is nasty and not necessarily true
that is true, although I am not sure what you mean by "real" cock
some guys are happy with a loving wife and can watch TV for intelligent conversation
exactly
no, they are village girls who want a better life


well Mao

Rigger 6 Mao 2

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sabang

And Issues- don't forget Issues.

I'm sure the miserable old Pensioners sipping on their pints at the cheapest pubs they can find in the UK would be well jealous. So good on 'em.

Boon Mee

Issues is too 'intellectual' for that lot!

Rigger

No it was a Thai woman living in the USA that was making money by bring these guys to the village and if they married one of the girls the family paid her part of the Sin sot, I think the guys were paying her at the other end as well to met them.

Rigger

something bigger than white board marker

DrAndy

good business, I hope everyone was happy
555 nice, but I was told it was carrots on the farms!

Rigger

For most the fat 50 year olds it is



And to bring up the kids,



Yes I am sure they enjoy it

DrAndy

true Terry, nice place but too hot most of the time, for me anyway

as for kindness and hospitality, same as any country folk