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slimboyfat

I don't know. I have never met any.

Rattanaburi

^ I would bet half of the girls who marry foreigners nowadays have educations and met their husbands through the internet. I know three who met through yahoo chat. One of those has a Phd. Take a look around Thailand and you will see much more farang-Thai activity that isn't related to the nightlife than before. Even some girls in the best universities in Thailand want to marry foreigners. There's a lot of communicating going electronically.

Jarvis

anyone can blag it on the internet though, just look at Smeg

Marmite the Dog

Hmmm... is the missus standing over your shoulder?

Jarvis

^You in BKK over xmas?

Jarvis

Supporting the locals, RS?

Rural Surin

Ingrained.

Sdigit

I've been to three Thai-Thai marriages and never once was the dowry offered back to the groom. They probably knew he'd snatch their hand off

tsicar

...........after the family had sold her snatch off!!

DrAndy

you just posted this nonsense on another post



any newbie reading that shit would think TG was a forum for right wing racists/sexists/mysogynists, if they took any of your posts as typical

tsicar

please point me in the direction of this "tg forum" your post referred to:
i would like to give it a go coz i am tired of your and your bumchums' apologist, pc shit that has charactersed teakdoor for the past couple of months.

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Sdigit

Saw that too

DrAndy

the offer to return the sinsot would only occur if that was what was agreed in advance

sometimes all or a proportion is returned, then it seems as if the groom is paying a large amount

of course you would not see it happen, unless you were the groom or immediate family

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Sdigit

I've never heard of that before, I'd always thought of it as a "pays ya money takes ya chance" affair.
When I saw the money counted out by the brides father the look said it all, biggest payday of his life and there weren't gonna be no discount

sabang

At the end of the day, 'sinsot' is the tradition in Thailand, just as dowry is in India. It is not invented for the farang, so whilst we may not like it because it does not exist in our culture, well so what- it Is. If you can't deal with the concept, don't marry a Thai.

Problems can arise because some locals get too greedy and try and rip off the farang- but problems can also arise when a farang, unused or insensitive to local ways, aggressively negotiates it as if it was a fake Gucci or something. This is considered demeaning to both parties- it is best really to bargain via an intermediary, more often than not the wife to be or a trusted 'auntie'. But the huge "Big Face" type sinsots do not come from farangs in Thailand- they come from Thai weddings betweeen affluent families.

Personally, apart from paying out about 15k baht for a village party, I paid no sinsot- I was never asked to actually. I asked why (later), and was told that as I was buying a house in Thailand for Mrs, plus had been paying 6k bht rent for the Mil when she lived in Bkk I had 'done enough'. also, we were considered already married- in fact we were already married, in Australia.

I suppose rapacious demands for Sinsot- especially if it is obvious that ones betrothed is 'in on' the outrageous demand- give you a pretty good clue as to the nature of the family you are marrying into. Rarely the formula for a happy marriage, so think again. I've heard the horror stories of never ending requests for money, but in reality I've not encountered it first hand in my time here- most families seem to be basically reasonable. Paying a sensible amount of sinsot should not be seen as a ripoff, or an insult.

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Marmite the Dog

Some do.

DrAndy

are you saving up, Marmite?

DrAndy

yes, good idea

now fuk off you tired fool

Travelmate

Demands for money, not an insult?

Sdigit

It isn't the sinsot that I find offensive, it's the continued monetary demands that come after the wedding, these demands seem to come from any family member and for any reason, and when we don't fall over ourselves to hand over the cash it's they take offense.
I'm quite sure that this isn't always the case but it dose seem to happen more often that not.