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    Why have we chosen this life of uncertainty?

    I was having a coffee at the shopping mall today. I was doing some serious people watching. I saw Thai workers arriving and waiing each other, which is an act I have always felt uncomfortable doing. I observed the girls applying their powder and makeup, which I feel should be done at home before they leave the house. I heard talk of what they wanted for lunch and of the big sale on shoes at the store two doors down. I caught the sound of the laughter of the Thai workers as they commenced to their normal childish horseplay. Grown women pushing and shoving each other like junior high students in school hallway might do.

    As I watched the all Thais off to their daily tasks I suddenly felt that I although I have a life here, I really don't fit into their world. Their thought process is different, their language is different, the way they look is different and their food is definitely different.

    No matter what I do, I will never fit into their world. I will never be accepted, never be allowed to vote, and always be the farang; the white man in a crowd of Asians.

    The Thai rule book is in a perpetual state of editing. We never know when the immigration goal posts are going to be moved so far that we can't possibly be a player anymore.

    I ask myself, can I forever be content being a sojourner in this land? A visitor that is more like a tumbleweed than a living breathing person because my life here is in the hands of the Thai government?

    Today I can, but tomorrow I may feel different.

    So why am I here? Maybe all of the above is the big reason. The lack of a permanent situation subconsciously appeals to me for some reason. I have never liked to be chained down in any situation. Maybe Thailand fulfills my "flying by the seat of my pants" persona.

    I won't be building any houses here nor will I allow myself to be dead set on grounding my roots here in any way.

    I have chosen Thailand for the lack of commitment, the lack of a permanent home and the lack of any sort of a life structure.

    So why have you chosen a life in Thailand?
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    Seemed like a good idea at the time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MeMock View Post
    Seemed like a good idea at the time.
    A long winded guy aren't you?

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    "I have chosen Thailand for the lack of commitment, the lack of a permanent home and the lack of any sort of a life structure."

    This explains my situation... After a lifetime of the above, it's time to shed the ties which bind...

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    Came to run a business, but that is a very difficult task over here...

    your post and observations are spot on for me as well, Chi...

    To much cultural difference, and basically no local friend after 10 years is strange or revealing perhaps...

    Going to the Phils soon will be for a better tomorow i feel...

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    Quote Originally Posted by chitown
    Why have we chosen this life of uncertainty?
    Life carries no certainties no matter where you live.

    Quote Originally Posted by chitown
    So why have you chosen a life in Thailand?
    Didn't chose to. No great plan. Just ended up here. Guess I'm just the type person who goes with the flow and if the river of life takes a left turn, I find it best to go that way. Been this way my whole life. Maybe that's why I have no stress or related health problems.
    Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.

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    Thailand is the only country where you can marry three or four women, have several kids and get them all looked after by relatives

    easy

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    Quote Originally Posted by chitown View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by MeMock View Post
    Seemed like a good idea at the time.
    A long winded guy aren't you?
    Funny you should say that as usually I am and am forever being told to 'cut it short; by friends.

    The thing is I read your post twice and thought about a real intelligent answer for quite a while and well.... you got it!
    News is what someone, somewhere is trying to suppress - everything else is just advertising.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chitown View Post

    No matter what I do, I will never fit into their world. I will never be accepted, never be allowed to vote, and always be the farang; the white man in a crowd of Asians.
    Don't worry too much about fitting into other peoples worlds. Just be comfortable in your own world. At least that way you can enjoy being a fly on the wall watching it all go on around you without being too attatched to anything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DrAndy
    Thailand is the only country where you can marry three or four women, have several kids and get them all looked after by relatives
    Or even be 60 years old and live with a 17 year old shiela and think it acceptable.

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    Basically, I like it here. I've moved around a fair bit over the years, so if the time comes to move on it's not earth shattering- and my next port of call wouldn't be a permanent commitment either. Or the next.

    But I see no reason, have no ambition, to move on. Reckon I'll stick around for a fair while yet.
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    Quote Originally Posted by chitown View Post
    So why have you chosen a life in Thailand?
    Cheap cost of living and wide supply of cheap prostitutes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DrAndy View Post
    Thailand is the only country where you can marry three or four women, have several kids and get them all looked after by relatives

    easy
    are you sure you aren't confusing Thailand with Saudi Arabia ?

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    The makeup thing should be done in the bathroom.

    Get on the bar girl special sky train from On Nut around 4pm and they are all at it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wefearourdespot View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by DrAndy View Post
    Thailand is the only country where you can marry three or four women, have several kids and get them all looked after by relatives

    easy
    are you sure you aren't confusing Thailand with Saudi Arabia ?
    oh, maybe I am

    life is very confusing with three wives

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    The only good thing about Saudi Arabia is there are no Thais there.

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    Most everything in the world is way over-hyped. We people first get involved in something they think 'This is it.' but eventually the truth is hard to deny. Religion, politics, love, diets, children, friendships, etc, etc. Even the American dream, is and has always been pretty much a great big failure for most. It might be easy to stay here because of years of let downs by the rest of the world. Why on earth would someone who can move to something better stay here unless they are in some way tied to this place?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rattanaburi
    Why on earth would someone who can move to something better stay here unless they are in some way tied to this place?
    maybe they are happy? maybe there is nowhere better?

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    Quote Originally Posted by chitown View Post
    I was having a coffee at the shopping mall today. I was doing some serious people watching. I saw Thai workers arriving and waiing each other, whic is an act I have always felt uncomfortable doing. I observed the girls applying their powder and makeup, which I feel should be done at home before they leave the house. I heard talk of what they wanted for lunch and of the big sale on shoes at the store two doors down. I caught the sound of the laughter of the Thai workers as they commenced to their normal childish horseplay. Grown women pushing and shoving each other like junior high students in school hallway might do.

    As I watched the all Thais off to their daily tasks I suddenly felt that I although I have a life here, I really don't fit into their world. Their thought process is different, their language is different, the way they look is different and their food is definitely different.

    No matter what I do, I will never fit into their world. I will never be accepted, never be allowed to vote, and always be the farang; the white man in a crowd of Asians.

    The Thai rule book is in a perpetual state of editing. We never know when the immigration goal posts are going to be moved so far that we can't possibly be a player anymore.

    I ask myself, can I forever be content being a sojourner in this land? A visitor that is more like a tumbleweed than a living breathing person because my life here is in the hands of the Thai government?

    Today I can, but tomorrow I may feel different.

    So why am I here? Maybe all of the above is the big reason. The lack of a permanent situation subconsciously appeals to me for some reason. I have never liked to be chained down in any situation. Maybe Thailand fulfills my "flying by the seat of my pants" persona.

    I won't be building any houses here nor will I allow myself to be dead set on grounding my roots here in any way.

    I have chosen Thailand for the lack of commitment, the lack of a permanent home and the lack of any sort of a life structure.

    So why have you chosen a life in Thailand?
    Thanks for this, Chi. I'll have to extend heartfelt kudos toward your consistent contributions of personal commentary and newsworthy items since your return. Even as we can be at odds occasionally {50/50}, your contributions are valued by many.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Norton View Post

    Quote Originally Posted by chitown
    So why have you chosen a life in Thailand?
    Didn't chose to. No great plan. Just ended up here. Guess I'm just the type person who goes with the flow and if the river of life takes a left turn, I find it best to go that way. Been this way my whole life. Maybe that's why I have no stress or related health problems.
    I imagine this paragraph could be used to describe many lives.....might be more common than not.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chitown View Post
    I was having a coffee at the shopping mall today. I was doing some serious people watching. I saw Thai workers arriving and waiing each other, whic is an act I have always felt uncomfortable doing. I observed the girls applying their powder and makeup, which I feel should be done at home before they leave the house. I heard talk of what they wanted for lunch and of the big sale on shoes at the store two doors down. I caught the sound of the laughter of the Thai workers as they commenced to their normal childish horseplay. Grown women pushing and shoving each other like junior high students in school hallway might do.

    As I watched the all Thais off to their daily tasks I suddenly felt that I although I have a life here, I really don't fit into their world. Their thought process is different, their language is different, the way they look is different and their food is definitely different.

    No matter what I do, I will never fit into their world. I will never be accepted, never be allowed to vote, and always be the farang; the white man in a crowd of Asians.

    The Thai rule book is in a perpetual state of editing. We never know when the immigration goal posts are going to be moved so far that we can't possibly be a player anymore.

    I ask myself, can I forever be content being a sojourner in this land? A visitor that is more like a tumbleweed than a living breathing person because my life here is in the hands of the Thai government?

    Today I can, but tomorrow I may feel different.

    So why am I here? Maybe all of the above is the big reason. The lack of a permanent situation subconsciously appeals to me for some reason. I have never liked to be chained down in any situation. Maybe Thailand fulfills my "flying by the seat of my pants" persona.

    I won't be building any houses here nor will I allow myself to be dead set on grounding my roots here in any way.

    I have chosen Thailand for the lack of commitment, the lack of a permanent home and the lack of any sort of a life structure.
    Great thread that is appropriate for us, from time to time.

    So why have you chosen a life in Thailand?
    The positives here outweigh the negatives.

    I feel the same way you do, in many of you points noted above.

    But I also understand this and I accept this.

    We are foreigners. No, we won't cross-over.

    Yes, Immigration laws can change, at any time.

    This is why we always have to have a back-up plan.


    I'd rather be here than in the US. Although, I will return one-day, I'll always try not to get "trapped" inside the US, as living as an expat will be an option I'll always want to have.
    ............

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rural Surin View Post
    Even as we can be at odds occasionally
    At odds? I had not noticed. I thought we just agreed to disagree on some things.

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    Nice post chitown. A green winging its merry way to you.

    The longer I stay here, the more I wonder why. I love my lifestyle, the relaxation, the fun, but I wonder about the future.

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    Most people stick about coz its better than wanking over a bird with staples through her tits.

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    Indeed, why have you? I can only say why I have not.

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