Thread: Bargirl in the US

My wife has been here in Oz for 3 years now and loves the place. Got a job after a month while she was still going to English classes( in Oz all new migrants get 500 hours for free on arrival). Made loads of friends just by going to the local temple. Eats Thai food every day, we shop at the asian grocery more than the western ones.
My wife was pretty homesick for the first couple of months, doesn't even want to go home for a holiday now.
This guy just needs to get his wife out of the house and let her meet some other Thais and get to know the place she is living in.

If I was to take my wife back to the states it would be to Bremerton, Washington to start and we'd probably end up in either Kent or the Bellevue area. She'd love the area ... I know she would. Problem is I'd have to jump back into the rat race again. She doesn't really have any friends here in Japan even though there are several Thai ladies right in the area. As long as we took my step-daughter with us and the old lady could get a job she'd be good to go. Seatlle and Bellevue each have a humongous Asian supermarket called Uwajimaya.

Originally Posted by Little Chuchok

There will be heaps of Thais knocking around.Just get you mate to find the Wat where all the local Thais come out of the woodwork.

This is probably an unfortunate requirement.

Take a look at any university bar in the UK, and you'll see Europeans, Africans, and most Asians happily mixing together, then a table in the corner with a few Thais huddling together for comfort

Originally Posted by Smeg

Take a look at any university bar in the UK, and you'll see Europeans, Africans, and most Asians happily mixing together, then a table in the corner with a few Thais huddling together for comfort

And Smeq on a table in the far corner.........on his own

Originally Posted by ozman

My wife has been here in Oz for 3 years now and loves the place. Got a job after a month while she was still going to English classes( in Oz all new migrants get 500 hours for free on arrival).

Only if you live in a city.

Does her mother in law know she is an ex-whore. Are they treating her correctly or as if she is trash.

She needs to go to the Asian supermarkets look at food cook, try new things not sit around the house doing fuck all waiting for the noodle man to come around.

I suppose he could stick her in a short skirt and boob tube and whack her on the nearest street corner then. Might make her feel a bit more at home.

but i dont think they pay for lady drinks on the local street corner of the US....

I am sure people will by her beer in a brown paper bag to and say it is a lady drink.

Good to see a serious thread has been destroyed by the likes of you again KW.

Terrible

Some good comments. I am too lazy to quote everyone individually, so I'll respond to most in one post.

All of us live in New Jersey, so we are not out in the middle of nowhere. NJ is a multi-ethnic, relatively cosmopolitan state. There are plenty of Asians all around here, although only a small percentage are Thais. One of the funny things she worried about was everyone staring at her because she had dark skin. She had no concept of a multi-cultural society that doesn't have a Thai village mentality.

He just took her on a shopping trip to the Korean grocery store (which has plenty of imported Thai food also). They do plan on going to the local Thai temple, but I am not sure how class conscious Thais are here. Most of the bargirl/farang relationships are the old GIs and their bargirl wives (doesn't matter how old they are, something about they way they put on their makeup/dress gives them away). Since they have been in the US for a long time, they are given a certain amount of respect by other Thais. I don't know how much in common she will have with the younger Thais, who mostly are here to study or received work related visas. Will they look down on her for coming to the US "on her back" or will being another Thai in a foreign land outweigh this? If I was in Thailand and the only other American was some hick from Alabama, we'd have some stuff in common, but not much. Regardless, I'll find out pretty soon how they treat her.

As of the mother-in-law, she was one of her biggest supporters. Because his ex-wife was so useless, his mom is glad to have a daughter-in-law who wants to take care of the family.

And she will be starting EFL classes at the local community college this fall.

IMO, She assumed some things that are in Thailand are everywhere (street vendors selling Thai food on every corner, friendly people, Thai media) and is startled to see how different that everyday tasks are done here.

Originally Posted by friscofrankie

What kinda job is a Bar-girl educated gonna get in the US?

Probably the same jobs as Tavern Tina or Loose Lisa the high school drop out skanks in every city US ... Cashier, Orderly, Laborer, Bar tender, waitress, etc.

(My comment isn't meant to further denigrate bar girls by the way.)

NJedsi and a few others,

Don't fool yourselves at all into thinking your special Asian significant other will be viewed any differently by many in the US than they do the BGs. It's hogwash. I've never taken my 2nd wife to the US but I lived there for many years with my 1st wife who is Japanese. She is independently very wealthy (paid cash for a half million dollar home two years before we divorced) ... she has a elite level Japanese university education ... and yet many Americans still think of Japan in 1950-1970 terms ... bar girls and whores selling poontang. If you're married to Asian and not locating to Honolulu, San Francisco, New York, Seattle and a handful of other blue state places ... sooner or later you'll deal with the stereotype.

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I'm inclined to think you are opening yourself up tp comments about the intelligence of the average US citisen with that post SK.

Damned if you do ... damned if you don't. Some take it more personally than others.

Good news. My friend called and said she met a few other Thai gals when they went to the Thai temple. One from Pattaya who married a her husband (a Marine) recently and another girl from the same province in Thailand. Things are looking up for them.

Originally Posted by Storekeeper

Don't fool yourselves at all into thinking your special Asian significant other will be viewed any differently by many in the US than they do the BGs.

I would be more concerned with her finding other peers she could relate to within the Thai/Asian community. Quite frankly, I couldn't give a shit what white people think of my girlfriend. As long as they don't disrespect me to my face, I don't care what people say behind my back. In all likelihood, they will just see two brown people in love and not think much more about it.

I don't think my friend's relationship with this girl is going to last. His five year old daughter has given up trying to communicate with her and now avoids her. Two nights ago, she gave my friend a hug and kissed him goodnight. She started to walk out the room and he had to force her to say goodnight to the Thai wife. IMO, you can't really blame the kid. She is five freakin years old. She is too young to adapt to the needs of others. To her, there is this strange lady who can barely speak a word of English and cooks weird food (hasn't tried one Thai dish yet) who is now her step-mom.

As for the Thai girl, she still cries everyday and is homesick. She just seems completely out of her element here and having trouble adapting.

He still has 60 or so days left before they need to get married (she is on a fiancee visa). Is it time for him to cut his losses and admit defeat before the situation gets real ugly? If she leaves now before they are married, he can still get out of this relatively unscathed. And I feel a bit sorry for the girl. She didn't know what she was getting into. He should have known better than to try this. Me and mate told him not do this to begin with and even predicted this shit was going to happen.

Kind of sucks to see this follow the path of a cliched Stickman Submission.

If his preference is a LBW it sounds like he'd be better off heading' to Angeles City and finding him a Filipina. Especially if he needs a more nanny like step-mom for his daughter.

Originally Posted by njdesi

He still has 60 or so days left before they need to get married (she is on a fiancee visa). Is it time for him to cut his losses and admit defeat before the situation gets real ugly?

It would seem the sensible thing to do.

Originally Posted by Storekeeper

If his preference is a LBW it sounds like he'd be better off heading' to Angeles City and finding him a Filipina. Especially if he needs a more nanny like step-mom for his daughter.

Reminds me (sorry for going off-topic) of a thread I started over in TV couple three years back on LBFM's. Man, the women over there attacked me big-time!

Originally Posted by Boon Mee

Originally Posted by Storekeeper

If his preference is a LBW it sounds like he'd be better off heading' to Angeles City and finding him a Filipina. Especially if he needs a more nanny like step-mom for his daughter.

Reminds me (sorry for going off-topic) of a thread I started over in TV couple three years back on LBFM's. Man, the women over there attacked me big-time!

As a matter of fact I posted it LBW instead of LBFM in respect to this forum's lady posters

Originally Posted by njdesi

His five year old daughter has given up trying to communicate with her and now avoids her.
As for the Thai girl, she still cries everyday and is homesick. She just seems completely out of her element here and having trouble adapting.

Look, shit like this takes time. I stayed single until my kids were over eighteen. just to avoid the complicatins rbingin' a step-mom into the picture would create. The thing with the child will clear up, at 5 years old? But he should allow them to work it all out between 'em; be there in aid but not force the issue. what's a year when related to a lifetime?
Now the girl cryin' everynight. That's a big thing. She's set in her Thai ways. Can she adapt? how old is she? What kind of moxie has the girl got? Will she stick through the cryin', missin' mom, homesick blues or no? If not, well then she's not a good choice for a partner is she?

Originally Posted by njdesi

As for the Thai girl, she still cries everyday and is homesick. She just seems completely out of her element here and having trouble adapting.

Did she ever want to go in the first place? Sounds like it wasn't her idea to begin with.