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    Moulding your Thai lady into the woman of your dreams

    In Greek mythology, Pygmalion, the king of Cyprus, found so much fault in womankind that he resolved to live unmarried. But after painstakingly sculpting a statue of a beautiful woman that he named Galatea, he came to regard his creation as so perfect that he fell in love with her.

    George Bernard Shaw adapted this myth and to create the play which was later made into a movie called My Fair Lady. In fact an intriging movie and one I have always associate with regard to the few serious relationships with my very own Thai Eliza Doolittles (ED).

    To be fair my ED has adapted well and with support from me but still caries a lot of typical village girl traits that I just can't seem to rid her of.

    Things like being more organised around the house (everything has its place), being open to enter into discussions with my farang friends and business associates etc etc.

    Dont get me wrong I truly love the fusion we have created (East meets West) but still there are quite a few places I would like to take her too and introductions and meetings that I want to share with her and in my company. Still today she lacks the self confidence to cross the line and I have no idea how to help make her feel more confident in herself.

    I am also very proud about what she has achieved, and especially with her small business that she runs with very little help from me but truly I want to spend and share more time with her and away from the kids and our family life.

    Anyone out there that has any secrets about how they achieved a solution to the Thai "Eliza Doolittle girlfriend/ wife syndrome"?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Loy Toy
    Anyone out there that has any secrets about how they achieved a solution to the Thai "Eliza Doolittle girlfriend/ wife syndrome"?
    Only one really- change yourself too.

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    Stop treating her as someone that needs to be moulded and changed. Even referring to her or previous relationships as 'Eliza Dolittles', implies that you feel yourself superior & her/them inferior. As long as you feel like that (even deep down), you cannot expect her to have self-confidence. Why would she if she feels you think she's not good enough?

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    Accept her as she is; warts an' all. Pretty sure that she does with you.

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    Plastic surgery?

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    true, you obviousely fell in love with who she was, why would you want to change that, i understand you wanting her to find her wings and fly but if she is content the way she is why upset the applecart?, be happy with how lucky you are!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Loy Toy
    I would like to take her too and introductions and meetings that I want to share with her and in my company.
    Cant imagine why, keep thing separate is always best

    You will have less to explain later

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    You will have to learn to adapt to each other. You can't mould your other half if that half is resistant to your inputs and suggestions. Anyhooter by the time your 90 plus in age that just when about you have just about got it right. By then you only have mere days left to enjoy your moment.

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    OK, she needs to learn how to cook and clean properly and be a good shag but if she isn't that when you meet her, why stay with her?

    many flowers in the garden

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    Quote Originally Posted by Loy Toy
    there are quite a few places I would like to take her too and introductions and meetings that I want to share with her and in my company. Still today she lacks the self confidence to cross the line and I have no idea how to help make her feel more confident in herself.
    Seems to be quite common with many (not all, dickheads) Thai people. Many are overawed by westerners' depth of knowledge and the advanced state of western civilisation. When you consider where Thailand was only a few decades ago, I think they've adapted pretty well, but sometimes it's not easy to find a Thai with a western level of confidence. Familiarity with foreigners and foreign places over time is probably the only way she may gain confidence.

    To be honest my last one was probably too confident to the point where she often made herself look stupid by pretending to be a 'full-on' western women and completely missing the point.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marmite the Dog
    To be honest my last one was probably too confident to the point where she often made herself look stupid by pretending to be a 'full-on' western women and completely missing the point.
    Did she get her tits out and shout "Girl Power!"

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    Quote Originally Posted by NickA
    Did she get her fried eggs out and shout "Wankers!"
    All the time!

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    ^loud farts and burps, followed by minutes of uncontrollable laughter?

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