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    Are you the jealous / possessive type?

    It seems that in Thailand especially, to begin a relationship seems to constitute taking control of someone else's life to aid your own happiness, rather than helping them to be happy, and being "in love" seems to constitute a requirement to continually check on their pastimes and wherabouts rather than offering them the unquestioning trust that I normally associate to go hand in hand with love.

    Do you suffer from being ki-hueng or having a ki-hueng partner?

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    Thats probably the easier way to go!

    It never fails to amaze me how insecure people can be, causing them to be clingy and unreasonable.

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    Jealousy is certainly based on insecurity than any sense of 'affection' for the suspected partner. It's absolutley no fun to not be trusted and to be constantly accused of misbehaviour.....It makes it really hard to get away with anything for one thing.

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    None of your business, Smeg - why are you so curious about other people, TD'ers in particular?

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    I find a lot of the men living in BKK to be very very jealous indeed.

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    ^ Especially those born here!

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    It seems that in Thailand especially, to begin a relationship seems to constitute taking control of someone else's life to aid your own happiness, rather than helping them to be happy, and being "in love" seems to constitute a requirement to continually check on their pastimes and wherabouts rather than offering them the unquestioning trust that I normally associate to go hand in hand with love.
    why do you think that Smeg? what gave you that impression?

    why more in Thailand rather than England?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Smeg
    Do you suffer from being ki-hueng or having a ki-hueng partner?
    I sure am, how did you know?


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    You crack me up NickA.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lily
    You up me crack NickA.
    Calm down, Lily, I know it's an impressive specimen, but just wait your turn for a bit of limpy action!

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    Not controlling.

    But I did tell her that if she ever tries to fuck me over I will burn her family in their sleep.

    She understands.

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    A lot of people don't like talking about this subject.

    In my youth I was a bit of a jealous type but I happily grew out of it several years ago, and now view relationships as a union which can help two people to both improve their enjoyment of life. It is therefore very tiring to have to put up with possessive immature females, especially those in their mid 20s who act as if they are in their mid teens and who seem only concerned with offering superficial levels of compansionship in return for demanding the world. I believe this to be one of the biggest problems encountered in relationships here.

    Dr, I might have considered accepting the invitation to explain and justify my thoughts and beliefs on your psychology couch had you first provided something of interest or value to this thread.....
    Last edited by Smeg; 31-03-2006 at 08:34 AM.

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    I was jealous with my ex-wife but tried to hide it. Probably still am but have become wise enough to know the Kingfish ain't gotta play that game.

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    thats the thing; its all about wising up, and realising that jealousy usually just causes friction and fatigue, and doesn't actually achieve very much.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Smeg
    and now view relationships as a union which can help two people to both improve their enjoyment of life.
    Premature death is a strange way to improve ones life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Smeg
    Dr, I might have considered accepting the invitation to explain and justify my thoughts and beliefs on your psychology couch had you first provided something of interest or value to this thread.....
    that is exactly the sort of patronising rubbish that makes people call you a twat, Smeg

    How can I contribute to a thread if I have no idea why you are stating what you are? my interest obviously irks you, so sorry

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marmite the Dog
    Premature death is a strange way to improve ones life.
    So is being deported.

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    People can be jealous because of low self esteem and the fear that they will be supplanted in their loved-one's affections. This is irrational and is different from a concern that a partner may be unfaithful. The latter isn't jealousy; psychologist call this behaviour slag-awareness and consider it to be completely rational.
    Back off Margaret, you're on a sugar rush!

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    Quote Originally Posted by DrAndy
    that is exactly the sort of patronising rubbish that makes people call you a twat, Smeg

    How can I contribute to a thread if I have no idea why you are stating what you are? my interest obviously irks you, so sorry
    So good of you to explain the motives of all those people who call me a "twat". I did wonder why they said it, but now I have no need to ask any of them.

    So whenever other people start threads, you also nned to analyse their reasons for starting the thread and sharing their opinions before contributing to the topic? Funny, but I haven't really noticed you doing that....

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    agreed Danbo. It is also quite common for people with low self esteem to make others feel jealous, as they do not give any reason to be trusted.

    Trust is at the centre of a good relationship, and if you continually feel your partner(s) are jealous, clingy and unreasonable, you should stop blaming them and look inwards.
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    no Smeg, not usually. But you started your thread with a general statement that the situation was worse in Thailand (It seems that in Thailand especially) whicj I found strange. So I wanted to understand why you thought that

    but you have avoided answering

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    Quote Originally Posted by DrAndy
    no Smeg, not usually. But you started your thread with a general statement that the situation was worse in Thailand (It seems that in Thailand especially) whicj I found strange. So I wanted to understand why you thought that

    but you have avoided answering
    Well as you have chosen to ignore the many times I have mentioned that I find your attempts at a probing psychological analysis of me rather than joining in topics quite boring, I have now chosen to ignore such questions.

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    as I said, you have avoided answering a question that was perfectly reasonable

    you probably do not have a reasonable answer, but never mind. You just go on stating your opinions that have little weight as you choose not to justify them

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    Quote Originally Posted by DrAndy
    as I said, you have avoided answering a question that was perfectly reasonable

    you probably do not have a reasonable answer, but never mind. You just go on stating your opinions that have little weight as you choose not to justify them
    Do I have to justify my existence and activites on the board to you??

    A reasonable question in your opinion perhaps, but quite boring (and verging on odd) in mine, and I doubt that many members would prefer threads to require the OP to fully explain his motives and opinions when starting any thread, should someone like you "demand" it.
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