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    Suicide

    Just got wind of the fact that a friend of mine took her own life. We'd known each other for about 25 years. She was young (37), a good looking lass, very moneyed up (traveled often, always business or first, to exotic locations), but apparently that was not enough.

    I dared not ask her aunt how she ended things, but I'm thinking OD. Life's a bit precarious. Given the amount I've imbibed I shouldn't even be here. She isn't. Rather shitty, innit.

    Edit: if I'm terminal and I'm about to start shitting in adult diapers I'm joining her club. Fuck any chemo, life in hospital, sympathy etc.

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    My sympathies mate.

    I'm terminal and have no problems at all with pulling the plug when the time comes.

    It's not that easy though.

    Access to the right drugs isn't easy and far too many people end up in the embarrassing situation of failing and basically creating a huge mess.

    If your friend was lucky enough to have found her way out without undo pain and stress I'd feel happy for her.

    That doesn't stop you missing her though.

    Good luck to you.

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    Sad to heat that Geezy...37 is way to young to leave the party.

    There is always something to look forward to in life even if you haven't quite found it yet.

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    I knew a guy once, 27 years old. He seemed to be doing OK and enjoying life but I suppose his suicide indicated otherwise. Nobody who knew him expected it or could explain it.

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    Two things that got her down: her father passing, and men chasing her for her money. She was smart, witty, well read, pretty.

    Something was eating at her. But she kept it to herself.

    Her aunt says it was a peaceful passing, so that is a relief.

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    I've been to a funeral before of an old schoolfriend who choked on his own vomit in his sleep.

    They didnt mention the shitload of heroin that caused it.

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    Sorry to hear. Will likely haunt her mother for the rest of her live if they she's still about.


    Was just thinking today how lucky I am about such things, in my 30's and out of all family and friends have only lost one cousin to SADS 20 years ago.

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    Terrible thing to loose. RIP that's all I got. May have been death by miss adventure. Suicide just has a bad ring to it. Good luck to those who she left that were close to her.
    Peace out,fish.

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    I used to have real mixed feelings about suicide, was it a cowards way out ?
    Should I try to understand the people's desperation? Etc etc
    Then my wife's illness took a real hold. The doctors said they could do no more, she asked them and me about going to Switzerland. I was totally shocked but understood how she wanted to preserve her dignity.
    The doctors gave her two weeks, would not discuss assisted suicide, probably not allowed to.
    Three days later I carried her to our car, drove her through her favourite countryside to the hospice. She died just five days later.
    I will never question anyone's right to a dignified death if it's inevitable.
    Tragically sad if it's brought about through depression.

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    I'm going to become a member of EXIT, this is another assisted suicide outfit in Switzerland. But it's based in the French speaking part. My nightmare would be the last voice I hear is someone talking Swiss German!!

    Not because I am ill, I have been thinking about it for a few years now. They even come to you in hospital.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bower
    I will never question anyone's right to a dignified death if it's inevitable.
    I had the same with my mom, I wouldn't call fading away under copious amounts of morphine undignified though.

    Spare a thought for the Thais who die in agony without the money for drugs. That's undignifed

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    Quote Originally Posted by patsycat
    I'm going to become a member of EXIT, this is another assisted suicide outfit in Switzerlan
    Cherish every day you have left. My friends mother had every kind of cancer imaginable and a couple of amputations, chunks cut out of her and all the pain never stopped her, for 25 years anyway.

    Be strong and fight, you're Scottish not French

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dillinger View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by Bower
    I will never question anyone's right to a dignified death if it's inevitable.
    I had the same with my mom, I wouldn't call fading away under copious amounts of morphine undignified though.

    Spare a thought for the Thais who die in agony without the money for drugs. That's undignifed
    I totally agree, the respect and care of the hospice staff was exemplary. I would add it is also about dealing with the fear and anxiety, I cannot remember the name of the drug they used to ease this.

    As discussed in another thread about the poor Thai lady abandoned by all it seems and then having to travel to hospital for what pain relief they would dispense. Very sad .

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    Sorry to hear your news... has to be said them some people don't take there lives just because they're at rock bottom, but because they feel life will never get any better than it is at that point...

    Die young and stay pretty.

    RIP

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    I cut a 6ft 6 hard case who was on the karaoke that afternoon
    We thought he was ok a good bloke, he was found by me at 10 o clock that night
    It was one of the worst days of my life but it was better me finding him than his mother or his son
    He was my brother in law, an absolute legend every one loved
    I didn't see it coming, none of us did he got eulogies off Paul weller, ocean colour scene, and off Oasis who he played with musically and bodyguard work
    I think he was 34
    I will never know why he never reached out
    RIP

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    My life's not fantastic at the moment, and I'm pretty much alone, without a network of friends, or a crew like I had when I was younger. Even the lovers have dried up. I'm in a country I don't like much, nor care much for the people.

    But I figure it will get better, so I'm not going to end things now. There are always highs, lows, and plain old in-between patches.

    I could always sell up, end contract end head to a sunnier place and live a simple lifestyle. Doing that is very strong on my mind now.

    I recall I was a lot happier before I had all these gadgets, spent hours on the net, and got frustrated with too many small things.

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    If it really was suicide and not an accidental overdose I find it difficult to muster up sympathy for someone who seems to have had a pretty good life without many of the difficulties and pressures that many people face without taking the cowards way out.
    Depression is a killer but most battle on.
    "In my professional assessment as an intelligence officer, Trump has a reflexive, defensive, monumentally narcissistic personality, for whom the facts and national interest are irrelevant, and the only thing that counts is whatever gives personal advantage and directs attention to himself."

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    ^ Robin Williams?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cujo View Post
    the cowards way out
    You really are shallow and fucking clueless.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cujo View Post
    If it really was suicide and not an accidental overdose I find it difficult to muster up sympathy for someone who seems to have had a pretty good life without many of the difficulties and pressures that many people face without taking the cowards way out.
    Depression is a killer but most battle on.
    Seems a pretty shallow view there mate.

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    Suicide is a final non return solution to a passing by problem, to often for to many...

    Lady friend of mine just sent me thanks and big hugs to have saved her in a desperate night as she was swallowing all her medics, i took those away, and stayed with her,crazy night, she shouted at me, let me go... She thanked another friend who made the same comfort night few years back, a happy lady today, hopefully she not get in that depressive mood again.

    It is that lady that told me there is no word for parents that loose their kid, i not found that word until today.
    Monday,Tuesday, then it goes WTF !

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    Quote Originally Posted by forreachingme
    Suicide is a final non return solution to a passing by problem
    Nonsense.
    No disrespect meant.

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    I save my sympathy for the loved ones. Family and friends who are effected. Parents who will be shattered. Kids?

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    A few weeks ago attended the funeral of an ex long term girl friend, we had lived together, on and off for 8, 10 years.

    Won't be classed a suicide I think, she was an alcoholic, become bipolar, or always was, lost her job years ago, booze and anti depression pills thereafter.

    Fell over and ended up in hospital for a month, drunk, when released, more drugs, pain killers.

    Strange enough, her elder brother and sister died, booze and prescribed drugs, some just want to escape life.

    Think anyone could end up in the same boat, in the right circumstances.

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    The image of a suicide always seems to portray the person as being depressed, unhappy, in a big crisis etc
    but is that always correct?
    I seem to think that, at least sometimes, maybe, they just smile put a gun to their head etc and think oh fuck it!

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