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    Are you happy to spend time alone or do you need friends.

    I spent a weekend away with my mates and their missus in Rayong at the bike weekend it got me thinking about my friends out here in Thailand.

    When I first got here I was still a bit narked with Korea and was drinking pretty heavily so I started surrounding myself with foreign friends for the first 6 months or so we had a good time but slowly I realised who I could trust and who I couldn't slowly knocked them on the head until I was left with a select few of decent people.

    During all of this though I started to meet more Thai's who were not wanting to be friends other than actually being friends - I haven't met many THai's who want to know me for other reasons yet.

    At the weekend one foreigner was with us who I see once or twice a week for dinner. The rest were THai's who I trust a lot more than any of the foreigners in town.

    Outside of this cirlce are three other foreigners that I come to visit or I go to visit once a month at the most.


    I have come to realise that I really enjoy my own company. The really nice thing about my Thai friends is that my THai is so basic that I can happily sit there listening understanding enough but not having to talk - its nice.

    Two or three of them speak good English the others we get by.

    Back in the UK I was surrounded by people all the time and I thought I was happy but looking back maybe I wasn't.

    So as the question says.

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    I guess when it comes to how many people actually like sitting around after dinner watching a german 'shit eating fest' DVD Mrs Q.
    It sort of cuts down the old social circle.
    But hey, I'm an opened mided guy if you ever get short, by all means give us a call!

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    I like my private time, it's nice to watch a hardcore porn movie and adjust your knob when it gets uncomfortable in the privacy of your own home, cant really do that when you got your mates round

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    In mee 20s a lot of people came and went in me life.

    Now, I am more independent and am content to do my own thing.

    Me like company and comraderie, but it ain't as crucial to me life as it was in the past.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Snaff
    In mee 20s a lot of people came and went in me life.

    Now, I am more independent and am content to do my own thing.

    Me like company and comraderie, but it ain't as crucial to me life as it was in the past.
    I am the same Snaff. I am better company than I ever was. I have my friends around me here in Briz but am well aware that my own space is a good place to be. I shall be in Los within two weeks and I have to say that I am a little concerned that I will lose that space.

    It dont matter, coz I am gonna do it anyway.

    You are still in Viet arent you Snaff?
    Lets hook up for a beer.

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    I like my own space as I prefer muttering to myself and having imaginery conversations rather than real ones.
    Lets face it , in this way you can say what you want and choose the answer as well - you can also talk shit and no one ever thinks you're a cock.

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    of coure this sometimes becomes a problem when you are with real people and you start spacing off into your imaginery world as sometimes happens to me .

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    I value my own space, but it's nice to meet up with people occasionally. But we're not really alone as we've got each other on here, and I honestly believe that this is one reason why we're happy staying at home.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Marmite the Dog
    I value my own space, but it's nice to meet up with people occasionally. But we're not really alone as we've got each other on here, and I honestly believe that this is one reason why we're happy staying at home.



    A great post Marmite. Now that you have celebrated your 47th birthday you will understand how mellow we become as we age.

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    48th i believe cap

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    Sorry Marmers. I will be 49 one day too. Well done I say.
    I am honoured to know you at your age mate. Just think, next year is the big 50. You have much to be proud of old mate.

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    I'm (worringly too) happy with my own company; but agree with others in saying that there are times when companionship is welcomed, even craved. At times like that I get the yoghurt pots down off of the shelf and we all have a right good old party.....except for poolie who is in the yoghurt pot hospital (bin) after I sat on him by accident the other day - sorry poolie.

    In truth I tend to to be (worringly too) close to one or two people and treat everyone else like sh1t.
    Last edited by danbo; 13-12-2005 at 03:47 AM. Reason: I drew a jack, but the cat drew a queen

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    Ohh I thought he was 42.


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    My own company is bloody good, and I get some fuckin smart replies too

    I do like to have a drink now and then, with other people. If you drink enough then the replies dont have to be too smart. so that's good

    and a meal with friends is always nice, never mind the food
    I have reported your post

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    Always loved socializing and meeting new faces. Perhaps that's the reason I voluntary decided to render services for one of the non government organization, for two years without pay, to help drug addicts (specifically heroin addicts) recover. At times I prefer to be left alone but that happens rarely.

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    Happy to be on my own to be honest. I tend to talk too much when people are around and have a need to be a 'good' host (unless I'm pissed then I don't really care).

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    Isn't that aways ken?


    I used to be a real social butterfly until I turned about 25 and for some reason suddenly changed.

    I now keep a couple of good friends close to me as well as my family and I am happy with that.

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    I spend a lot of time alone or in the company of my kids. I finally got out on Saturday night and realized its fun to be in the company of others as well. In fact I had a damn good time. Its time for the old AO to get out and socialize as well as having people over to his house.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Macha
    Always loved socializing and meeting new faces. Perhaps that's the reason I voluntary decided to render services for one of the non government organization, for two years without pay, to help drug addicts (specifically heroin addicts) recover. At times I prefer to be left alone but that happens rarely.
    Restraint can be a good thing.

    I will demonstrate of how I will not exacerbate the Macha situation by totally abstaining from making a sarky comment to this post which is just screaming out for a witty reposte.

    I urge otters to try this tactic at times.

    (not every time though!)

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    You have every right to your opinion Poolie. Post away whatever comments you might have cos its TD!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Macha
    You have every right to your opinion Poolie. Post away whatever comments you might have cos its TD!
    To further illustrate the use of restraint I shall not respond to Macha's goading in the least.
    Have a nice day my muslim friend.

    (do we have an osama smiley yet?)

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    Quote Originally Posted by poolcleaner
    Quote Originally Posted by Macha
    Always loved socializing and meeting new faces. Perhaps that's the reason I voluntary decided to render services for one of the non government organization, for two years without pay, to help drug addicts (specifically heroin addicts) recover. At times I prefer to be left alone but that happens rarely.
    Restraint can be a good thing.

    I will demonstrate of how I will not exacerbate the Macha situation by totally abstaining from making a sarky comment to this post which is just screaming out for a witty reposte.

    I urge otters to try this tactic at times.

    (not every time though!)
    You know that!

    Pleased it's not just me
    Brass Monkey that funky Monkey
    Brass Monkey junkie
    That funky Monkey
    Brass Monkey that funky Monkey
    Brass Monkey junkie
    That funky Monkey

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    come on Pooly, you always rise to the easy bait!!

    we are more circumspect in our responses and just wait

    that post of Machas did make me want to puke though

    no puking smilies

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    You too have a great day.

    By the way are you Christian?

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