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    Music As A Coping Mechanism... Accepting Loss

    No need for sympathy or any of that. Simply sharing what has been good for my spirit since my mother passed last month. A broad range of good music has been a huge release for me... And the song I'm about to post has been most helpful. Honestly in most scenarios music puts my mind at ease... And said music can be any genre that works for me given the scenario. Anyhow I'm sharing this song with you miserable old cnuts because I love it and believe most of you will as well.

    RIP to my mother and any other soul lost 2013 or before.

    Rihanna - Stay ft. Mikky Ekko - YouTube

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    Another... System Of A Down- Chop Suey!
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    ^Sorry to hear about your Mum mate, but we all go there in the end - be bored shitless otherwise

    Music is an emotive enhancer. As good for your healing as weed, aspirin, good fiends and family and a fired up spirit.

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    Thanks for that but as my mom was only 22 years older than me we shared a lot of the same music. I guess that makes it that much more sacred to me.

    My mom died at just 50 years of age. But one of her most famous quotes was "die young, stay pretty" and she did just that.

    Point if this thread was using music shared with the departed that may make one feel either better or at least at ease.

    Anyways I'm ok with my mom passing.. Was hard but it wasn't a schock.
    Just a thread for those who have recently lost someone to share how they got through the ordeal.. And for me it's mostly been music.

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    Sorry to hear of your Mom, Nokturnal. Mine passed away too at 48. It's too young aint it.
    Time is the great healer, although I still think of her and dream of her sometimes.
    Just remember all the good times, I'm sure there are many.

    I was listening to this the other day which my son was playing. he's 19 now and was only 2 months old when she passed., I have pics of her holding him, my first born.

    We only have one Mom bud


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    Damn, Nocturnal's younger than I thought and Dillinger's older.

    RIP to yer Mam.

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    Quote from Angela Monet.

    "Music speaks what cannot be expressed,

    sooths the mind and gives it a rest,

    heals the heart and makes it whole,

    flows from heaven to the soul"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dillinger
    Sorry to hear of your Mom, Nokturnal. Mine passed away too at 48. It's too young aint it. Time is the great healer, although I still think of her and dream of her sometimes. Just remember all the good times, I'm sure there are many. I was listening to this the other day which my son was playing. he's 19 now and was only 2 months old when she passed., I have pics of her holding him, my first born. We only have one Mom bud
    It's not always true, some are adopted and raised by people that don't have a clue of what they have taken on. I wish EVERYONE could experience what it's like to be bounced around in families that you don't even know. How about being split from your brothers when you're six and NOT seeing them for over 18 years.

    I'm sorry for your loss Dillinger, but I still consider you lucky to have only ONE mother. Everyone lives a different life, some are lucky and some are not. My adopted Mom just died last month. Last thing she said to me on Skype was that "this will be the last time that I will get to talk to you", I will always regret that as it did turn out to be true.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dillinger View Post
    Sorry to hear of your Mom, Nokturnal. Mine passed away too at 48. It's too young aint it.
    Time is the great healer, although I still think of her and dream of her sometimes.
    Just remember all the good times, I'm sure there are many.

    I was listening to this the other day which my son was playing. he's 19 now and was only 2 months old when she passed., I have pics of her holding him, my first born.

    We only have one Mom bud


    Thanks Dillinger.
    Mom had a bad car accident when I was just 5 or so... Upon visiting her at the hospital my sister was too scared to see her because she looked like a monster to my little sister.. Quite honestly after that accident she was never the same... The accident did major damage to her face .. Over 300 stitches and a wired up jaw. I think for any woman having serious facial scars would be troubling. That's what I believe was a big part of my moms downward spiral.

    I'm actually doing my best to celebrate her life rather than mourn her death... That's the type of woman she was. I also had a long talk with her and she told me she was happy with her life even if she died tomorrow.. Given that information and our talk it makes her passing much more tolerable.

    The last good photos I have of her are also with all my family and my 6 month old daughter.. Those I'll forever cherish.

    As well as music we shared which ranged from classic rock to punk and hip hop... Plenty to keep my memories bright. I've also got a wonderful family and my sister has been a huge help.

    Overall I'm ok.. I've made peace.

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