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    A cheater

    Hello to everyone,

    This is my first post on the forum. I've been browsing through this forum for a month but never got the chance to post anything. I thought it was about time I said hello. I'm 32 years old and in Bangers for the past four years.

    I'm wondering if any of you long-timers can give some advice and pointers as to how I find out if my Thai girl-friend's cheating on me. Let me tell you a bit about our relationship.

    My Thai girl-friend used to work as a building manager in Sukhumvit area but later on she took a job down south. We used to meet once or twice a week, when she was in Bangers, due to our busy work schedule but since she took a job in the south, 8 months ago, we only met three times. Now we only talk on the phone.

    Since she moved down south she's acting a bit weird. I mean there're times when I call her but she doesn't answer the phone. Later on when she calls back, let's see after two or three hours, she'd say 'I'm sorry I was busy with the client'. This is happening too often now and now I've started smelling a rat. I too often wonder if she's really f***ing on my back or am I paranoid ...

    Her x-bf left her cos he doubted she's a bar girl. I tried finding about her, from relatives, friends, x-boss, but it seems to me that nobody's telling the truth about her.

    Two months ago she went up north saying that she's on official tour but when I called her office (because I was suspicious) the Director told me that she's taken personal leave!!!!!! I flew up north to find out but all in vain. I saw her staying in a guest house with one of her collegues from her last job. I returned back to Bangers without meeting or saying anything to her. Later on I somehow managed to find out she was sleeping with the girl and she did confess to me when I asked!!!!!

    Now can any of you long-timers please tell me what the f*** is going on? Is she sleeping with another guy (obviously she slept or is still sleeping with girls)?

    Any input in this matter will be appreciated.

    C13

    P.S: I forgot to mention that I caught her out dating another guy but then I somehow decided to forgive her and she promised to be a good girl.

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    ^ you need to be talking this problem through with our Pooly mate...

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    What a pointless relationship. Ditch her.

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    You've been here for 4 years and you're even asking this question???? From the litany of soft evidence and the fact that she's a known cheater I'd bet dollars to doughnuts its bad news.

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    The guy above me said it best. You wouldnt put up with that shit anywhere but the LOS. Lose her.

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    and if possible give her the arse.

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    Best to see if you can get to join in with her on some gal on gal action I reckon, that's worth forgiving her for

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    In my experience Thai girls dont do 'semi commitment' or 'just dating' very well.. They are either in or out of a relationship or eyeing you for support. The fact that you havent given us a tale of mothers heart operations and sick buffalo stories is a good sign (unless you have them but havent yet told us) and might rule out the walking ATM syndrome. But after all, who the hell am I?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Heartbreak Kid
    You've been here for 4 years and you're even asking this question???? From the litany of soft evidence and the fact that she's a known cheater I'd bet dollars to doughnuts its bad news.
    Yes 4 years but I lack experience. I've never been to the red light districts during this period, just being honest with my job. I thought life's as simple as I am but the ups and downs started teaching me some lessons and hopefully I'll learn with the passage of time.

    What would you long-timers do if you were me?

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    Come-on long-timers the chap needs advice. Marmite, Poolcleaner, Dog, Cap etc?

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    Quote Originally Posted by dirtydog
    Best to see if you can get to join in with her on some gal on gal action I reckon, that's worth forgiving her for

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    What would I do??????

    It'd depend on how strong my feelings were for her and if I thought those feelings were reciprocated enough to make something real out of it.

    If its purely long distance relationship and based on what you already known / discovered then forget it ....

    If you don't think she's really into you then forget it ....

    If you only have some little spare time for her and not enough to make a solid commitment then forget it ....

    If you're ready for a live in relationship and can change her from cheating scheamer into a loyal live in partner only then let her into your life. Don't forget to watch her like a hawk for a while or you might regret.

    Now as they say in Thailand "its upto you".

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    Quote Originally Posted by Heartbreak Kid
    Come-on long-timers the chap needs advice. Marmite, Poolcleaner, Dog, Cap etc?
    I've advised already.

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    Lock her in a room and beat her until she comes around to your way of thinking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by C13
    Yes 4 years but I lack experience. I've never been to the red light districts during this period, just being honest with my job. I thought life's as simple as I am but the ups and downs started teaching me some lessons and hopefully I'll learn with the passage of time.

    What would you long-timers do if you were me?
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    What would I do if I were you?

    I'd give meself a damn good slapping!!

    You're 32 and been here 4 years.
    I have to assume you're from a place like India or Oman.

    What do you understand a 'real' relationship to be ?
    You meet a girl once or twice a week and she's your girlfriend?

    So 5 days a week you are both free of companions.
    This is called a window of opportunity.
    You seemed to have passed up on the opportunity but your clever girl has not.
    C13, she's just proving that she's human. I'll bet she assumes you are doing the same.

    The nitty gritty of this one is how much are you spending on her?
    Are you getting bled dry for a scum bag lazy cnut thief motocy guy?

    If you pay out zip. Good! You can continue in the relationship or finish it.
    That's your decision but what you have to accept is that there is no relationship.

    In my experience, while they can be fantastic people and good fiends rug munchers don't make good girlfriends.
    A reliable partner should be a slave to the penis.
    Where-ever possible get a bi girl as your gik!

    ps. flying to a place like Chiang Mai to spy on a girlfriend is a hanging offence in remote areas of australia and Canada.
    WTF were you thinking?

    I wish my missus would take a 2 week holiday.

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    Superglue her labia together but leave large enough a hole for her to urinate out of.

    If she uses superglue remover to seperate her lips then she is cheating on you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mrsquirrel
    Superglue her labia together but leave large enough a hole for her to urinate out of.

    If she uses superglue remover to seperate her lips then she is cheating on you.
    I suppose simply asking her would be out of the question?

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    I hope it ain't just a wind up as I hate to wast my time on such s**t.

    IMO, its time to have a seat and face yourself in the mirror and look deep down, be very honest with yourself.

    If you have doubt then she's definitely getting laid, not paid though, but who cares ..... what's the difference? You know it and I know it and everyone knows it. I ain't trying to bust your balls up but there're times in life when you don't need to ask. So sak up and break it off mate. Life's short don't waste your time with this lousy relationship.

    Once a cheater ..... always a cheater.

    Best of luck mate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Macha
    I hope it ain't just a wind up as I hate to wast my time on such s**t.

    IMO, its time to have a seat and face yourself in the mirror and look deep down, be very honest with yourself.

    If you have doubt then she's definitely getting laid, not paid though, but who cares ..... what's the difference? You know it and I know it and everyone knows it. I ain't trying to bust your balls up but there're times in life when you don't need to ask. So sak up and break it off mate. Life's short don't waste your time with this lousy relationship.

    Once a cheater ..... always a cheater.

    Best of luck mate.
    You seem to have an issue with cheaters Macha.

    Want to talk about it?

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    Nah Poolie. If ever I come across one, I'll definitely bring it to your attention in 'dear poolie' thread. That thread's a good laugh.

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    Get rid of her has been said!!!

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    I want to teach her a lesson before I break it off. What do you guys suggest?

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    Lol..... teach her a lesson? If you want revenge then IMO you never really loved her in the first place. How can you inflict pain and suffering on someone you really loved?

    You must have had good times, cherish those memories and remember them as such and don't turn them into feelings of hatered. One life, live it mate. We just can't press rewind on life and start again, what's happened is now a memory and I like happy memories the best of all, not sure about you. Desiring revenge can only harm yourself and nobody else.

    Watch ya say Poolie?

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    Quote Originally Posted by C13
    We used to meet once or twice a week, when she was in Bangers, due to our busy work schedule but since she took a job in the south, 8 months ago, we only met three times. Now we only talk on the phone.



    P.S: I forgot to mention that I caught her out dating another guy but then I somehow decided to forgive her and she promised to be a good girl.

    are you sending her any cash ?

    if not then you really are a tight arsed mother fucker - it's not surprising that she only talks to you on the phone if you're not.

    My advice is: give her your ATM card (or send it) to show her how much you love her - she'll soon be back to see you when the need arises.

    It's fun only getting laid once or twice a year - that's one of the main reasons I came to Thailand - can't stand being blown either.

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    Quote Originally Posted by C13
    I want to teach her a lesson before I break it off. What do you guys suggest?
    Well for starters, ask her to marry you and move to <insert home country>

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