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    In a funk.

    It's been a sad few days in sabland. I lost my main drinking buddy to cancer recently, and tbh I'm not handling it very well. I feel at a loose end. I've been drinkin' way too much, not eating near enough. I've gotta shake myself out of this funk. Oh well.
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    Me last year. Had some personal shit to deal with, two old friends passed on.

    Cue a 3 week non-stop bender, didn't eat much, just drank more and more and more. I'd collapse, sleep, wake up and drink immedietely regardless of the time of day/night

    Eventually had stomach pain and had to stop.

    Wasn't much fun tbh.

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    I've got stomach cramps. Wife is cooking up a nice smoked salmon omelette, I'm gonna force myself to eat it- but I don't feel hungry.

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    I've just fucked my back, think I've bulged a disk but it will get better.

    Serious cancer don't get better, Sorry to hear about your friend.

    My cousin died of cancer 3 months ago.

    Fucked up innit.

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    That's the trouble, you just lose appetite. I actually felt like Nic Cage's stunt double for Leaving Las Vegas at one point.

    Now I just get hammered on saturdays.

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    A very close friend of over 30 years died of a heart attack and I missed the fucking funeral due to incompetence of other friends. That didn't help.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sabang
    a nice smoked salmon omelette,
    sounds pretty good

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    Quote Originally Posted by sabang
    've got stomach cramps. Wife is cooking up a nice smoked salmon omelette, I'm gonna force myself to eat it- but I don't feel hungry.
    Time to face facts that drinking booze is not helping and go cold turkey.

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    Well, I managed half the omelette. I'm thinking of getting back on the piss.
    The people around here have been really great, I have to say.
    Still feel at a loose end, don't really know what to do. Just time, I guess.

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    Sorry to hear it Sabang.
    Go for a long walk or better still a bike ride, drink lots of water.
    Drinking doesn't help mentally or physically.

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    Sorry to hear it, sabang. Your posts have not been what they usually are.

    Gotta agree with koojo... walking, swimming, cycling... just about any physical activity is better than drinking for climbing up out of a funk.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sabang
    Well, I managed half the omelette. I'm thinking of getting back on the piss.
    The people around here have been really great, I have to say.
    Still feel at a loose end, don't really know what to do. Just time, I guess.
    Have a read of My name is "Mobi"; I'm an alcoholic | The life and times of a much wedded, Pattaya-based, recovering alcoholic blog - not just a story of man whoring his way through his retirement but someone battling another demon. When you have finished reading that, time to get a hobby, or pick up something you used to do before you started going on the piss instead of it.
    Originally Posted by bsnub "No wonder I drive a tesla"

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    Life turns to shit when a family member or close friend dies.

    Something in our brain short circuits and it can fuk you up for ages.

    Like I Don't do Funerals,

    Seeing people at there worst and sitting in the fucking chapel hearing stories really does my head in, I just want to a run a mile.

    They reckon going to the funeral gives closure, to me its the opposite, just fuks me up more.
    Stroller is a Yerman faggot.

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    Alcohol will only compound your problems and your thought processes, alcohol abuse is for pathetic losers.
    If you are grieving for the loss of a friend, then you have to accept the misery that comes with grief and ride it out. It cannot be avoided and is natural, normal and healing.

    Alcohol will only hide those feelings, they will eventually surface though and have to be dealt with. Better to do it now and do it sober. Cant be much fun for your wife being around you like this either.

    Reduce the alcohol to a healthier levels, increase the omelettes and look up grieving on the net.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sabang
    It's been a sad few days in sabland. I lost my main drinking buddy to cancer recently, and tbh I'm not handling it very well. I feel at a loose end.
    I noticed that you seem to have been off your game a bit lately, sorry to hear about your friend.

    You can't rush the healing/grieving process in my experience. If it takes a few drinks to take the edge off in the meantime then so be it, just bear in mind that you might cause grief to your wife if you shut yourself off from her.

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    Wander down to your local Wat and have a chat with the Abbot there. Do a little 'Tamboon' for your friend - it might help.

    Condolences for your loss, sabang.

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    It will certainly help the monks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by taxexile View Post
    It will certainly help the monks.
    It's far better to give than to receive.

    ...as long as it's not to that Wat in Si Sa Ket with the private jet, eh?

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    Actually I know Mobi quite well- he was a regular drinking buddy when I lived in Mabprachan. I'm heading down to Pattaya in about a month, hopefully we'll catch up then. I didn't realise how serious his alcohol problems were until I read his blog.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sabang
    Actually I know Mobi quite well- he was a regular drinking buddy when I lived in Mabprachan. I'm heading down to Pattaya in about a month, hopefully we'll catch up then. I didn't realise how serious his alcohol problems were until I read his blog.
    He's been through the self induced mill to be fair. Best to not allow yourself to get anywhere near his level though - that is a long long journey back.

    Give him a buzz - he can most likely offer the type of advice other can not.

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    Sorry to hear about your drinking buddy, sabang. It hurts and takes way too long to get over the loss of a friend.

    Better to grab the wife and go on a little holiday somewhere nice and cool than mope around in this oppressive heat and drink more.

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    set yourself a drink limit per day and don't go over it, drink has it's uses in times like these.

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    Time for a trip on the new scooter. See ya in next couple days. Hoping the guest villa is unoccupied.

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    Quote Originally Posted by terry57
    Seeing people at there worst and sitting in the fucking chapel hearing stories really does my head in, I just want to a run a mile.
    I gave the obituary. It's really not nice seeing someone waste away, but I kinda thought that it would get a bit easier after he died.

    ^ Always welcome mate, you know that. Might just be up your way soon, I think a brief getaway is in order.
    Last edited by sabang; 18-06-2013 at 10:34 AM.

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    These help with withdrawl at first:

    Diazepam (Valium) - takes the edge off and helps you sleep
    Baclofen (brand names Kemstro, Lioresal, Liofen, Gablofen, Beklo and Baclosan) - takes the edge off and helps you sleep
    Zimovane (Zopiclone) - knocks you out to sleep quickly so there's no insomnia, which is one of the reasons I didn't stop drinking years ago, I was terrified of insomnia, which I hate

    At first I'd recommend the Zimovane to help with sleep then switch to the Baclofen. Zimovane is only a short term help before you get a resistance to it. (2 weeks max)

    Baclofen is good and well known for not building up a resistance. Google it

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