Hmmm.... where do I start?
I've just acquired an 18 month old kid who has previously been brought up the Thai way and we need to correct this before it's too late. Therefore, I reckon I've got about 6 months to address this.
There are a few specific areas that are problems in my western eyes.
1. He's a victim of the 'I want - I cry - I get' syndrome.
This is quite simple to remedy (in theory). He gets told 'no', if it's not appropriate. He's still a bit wary of me, so its working quite well at the moment.
2. The grandparents used to give him milk all through the night whenever he woke up, which seems to be every 30 mins or so. Also, milk seems to have been used as a substitute for food most of the time. The milk they gave us was shitty soya milk with a sugar content of 10%. I have noticed that he is very mucusy and I belive the large quantities of milk are at least partially to blame for this.
Now he gets a bottle of milk at breakfast and one before bedtime. That's it. Otherwise he eats normal, non-spicy food. Fresh veges and a bit of fish or chicken. The milk he will be given in future is semi-skimmed, normal milk. I also want to get him using those beakers with the little mouthpiece on top rather than a baby's bottle.
3. In a one roomed house, it is quite natural that the family all sleeps together. We don't live in a one roomed house, so that is going to stop too. Not yet though, as the poor little mite needs to settle in first and get comfortable with his surroundings and more importantly, get used to me.
I think the way forward with this is to put him to bed with the Midget until he falls asleep, then she can leave him. This will obviously have to wait until he is sleeping properly and not expecting to feed all night.
4. He can barely speak, which for 18 months is a bit poor.
The Midget will get some books and start reading to him soon.
5. He still wears Pampers in the day time.
I don't mind them at night, but surely he should be training to use a potty about now? We have tiled floors, so the odd accident isn't a problem.
Are there any other tips that parents can share with us to help the lad speak more and ultimately start reading?
The Midget is 100% behind all of this as she is worried about his development too, and we have talked a lot about the best way of being good parents and maing the lad happy as well as strong & independant.
I'm sure more things will come to mind and of course, any other useful advice is appreciated.