The Thailand expat forum for Travel, Lifestyle and Fun.

Koojo

I'm a bit concerned about this and not sure how to handle it, whether it's a one ff thing, a passing phase or a portent of things to come I don't know.
he came home from school with a red eraser and told me his friend had given it to him.
My wife told me he had told her that he noticed another kid at school had two and he liked them and asked the kid for one but the other kid said no so my boy, chip off the old block, told the kid that if he didn't give him one he would tell the teacher and the teacher would confiscate both, so better to part with one and keep one than lose both.
Now, while I appreciate the intelligence of a 5 1/2 year old to come up with a scheme like that, it's nasty and evil, not to mention criminal.
I don't want to tell him that his mother had told me what he told her, and destroy his trust in mum, but I asked him about it tonight and he reiterated what he told me, that his friend had given it to him.
I said I was going to have a chat to mum about it.
Talk about panic, he came up with half a dozen different reasons I shouldn't talk to mum about it and looked a very worried boy when I left him to go to sleep and think about things.
I can't imagine where he would even get the idea to do something like that, let alone think it was ok.
We've always tried to teach him to be polite, kind, honest, sharing, charitable, helpful and a generally nice boy, not always with positive results but pretty good so far, where this little devil has come from I don't know.
Any ideas, thoughts or suggestions welcomed.

sabaii sabaii

He seems honest enough, he told his Mom what he did.

Maybe her reaction to him for what he did, has stopped him from telling you.

I would let it go, he seems to know he has done wrong by giving you all the reasons why not to ask his Mom about it.

Get his Mom to tell him not to do that again.

Buy your son some stationery too. And make sure he gives that kid a pencil sharpener

alwarner

The other kid shouldnt have been such a pussy and should have told your lad to get bent.

imo.

that said, i was loling when I read your story. It does show a cetain devilment.

sabaii sabaii

The guy with the Pig Farm Franchise probably started out with erasers

nigelandjan

Believe me mate you have far bigger events to come

OhOh

March him round to the victims house and offer to pay for the missing rubber.

Koojo

Yes, I encourage him to be honest by not tearing him a new arsehole when he fesses up, so he should know I'm not going to punish him. ( I do if I find out something he hasn't been honest about)He definitely knows he's done wrong.

She's explained the serious consequences of such activities. (prison)

A very excellent idea. Done. Thanks.

Koojo

I was thinking to ask him if he could get me a motorbike.
I'm going with Sabais suggestion of a gift. Of course there's no guarantee it'll get to the intended recipient.
He has a grand future as a Chinese businessman ahead.

nigelandjan

Hope that aint a big jelly fish

Koojo

what?
I was thinking a pencil sharpener.

Chairman Mao

Erasers?

I robbed 80 quid cash out of my dad's wallet when I was five. Had it for a few days too. Unfortunately 5 year old kids with 80 quid in cash arise quite a bit of suspicion and when I played 'I've got more money than you' with my sisters, aged 10 and 15 at the time, the gig was up. Went to split it but they weren't having it.

And hey, I turned out fine.

can123

Shave his head and look for a "666" marking. Daggers may be purchased at Chatuchak.

Stinky

He sounds like a bad egg to me, you need to put the lad into a temple to get some positive Kama from the monks before he turns your life into a scene from Scarface

nigelandjan

Sab might have other offerings

nigelandjan

^ Happy NY Digit

Stinky

Back at ya NigeorJan

Bazzy

Ask leading questions that illustrate the moral perspectives of the actions he has taken. When he does a similar thing again, ask questions again. Hopefully, in future, he eventually starts asking the questions in his own mind, reaching the right conclusions, before he acts.

A 5 1/2 year old is not evil by nature, he needs parenting to help him on the right path. Good luck with it Koojo.

ENT

As you say in your post # 1, he's a chip off the old block.

nidhogg

being a grass is a chip off the old block?

Koojo

I should have included the sarcy roll eyes smiley with the 'chip off the old block' comment, and it's not grassing, it's extortion.

DrAndy

now now, don't get all pedantic

but you will have to get him to tell you the truth - it is no good him only telling his mum

so a nice sit down with him and have a chat, let him know that he lied to you some way, and maybe make him return the eraser to the other kid

that is a loss of face and very embarrassing - I remember making my daughter take back a couple of postcards to a shop where she had just lifted them when she was 5, she never did it again (to my knowledge)

__________________
I have reported your post

laymond

no drama,sounds like you and mum have it sorted.

Koojo

I should have included the sarcy roll eyes smiley with the 'chip off the old block' comment, and it's not grassing, it's extortion.

Aussie Tigger

Your boy is normal,he negotiated for the eraser,he opened up to his Mum as most young kids will as their bond is strongest at his young age with their Mothers.
He obviously respects you as the head of the family hence his reluctance to admit to you.
Good communication is the key so he can build up the confidence to discuss these issues with you.
At his age he is testing the water and will as we all do tell the occasional white lie to cover up minor indescretions.
You sound like a good Dad, he is lucky to have a caring parent.

Marmite the Dog

He goes to school with Chinese. He'll have no morals by the time he leaves school.