Thread: Divorce, what's your take?

Divorce is excellent! Got rid of that pit viper I once married in a fit of lunacy.

I have a sneaking suspicion that that guy may have got divorced, and I have a strong suspicion that I'd side with his wife on the reasons why.
Accent confuses me...almost Kiwi, almost Pom, possibly Aussie from affluent background...not sure.
Anyway, his tax figures and marital property figures are way out if he's Kiwi.
NZ marital property law is that settlement should be based on contribution. As a base line, a working husband and a housewife mother, it's 50-50 assuming mum did the housework and looked after the kids. She should be recognised for that. All property owned before the marriage is not marital property except if the couple move in to a house owned by one or the other, then that house becomes the marital home and will be split 50-50 (or whatever calculation based on contribution and taking the base-line into consideration.
So, one extreme: Mr works, Mrs stays home as domestic "servant", bears kids and looks after everyone. Divorce time and everythng is split 50-50, and Mr's salary is garnished for child maintenance.
Other extreme; Mrs is a partner in an accountancy firm, Dad stays home looks after the kids and does the ironing. Divorce time and the house Mrs bought before the marriage but in which the couple lived becomes marital property split evenly, and depending on child custody, Mrs will pay child maintenance.
Middle scenario: Both work and are childless, bought a home together then divorce....the home is split evenly (no matter who paid more unless it can be shown that one wage earner was selfish and kept most of his/her earnings for him/herself, in which case it would come to contribution) and they each go their seprate ways. No alimony required.

Originally Posted by fishlocker

Nice. I've heard it said it's cheaper to keep her

Not in my case. I was about to make GS-15 and had been married for nine years. If you've been married while a Federal employee for ten years and get divorced, your former spouse gets 50% of your retirement, forever, once you retire. Doesn't matter who sues for divorce or who was at fault. The 50% is calculated at the Grade you retire. As I didn't retire for a decade after the divorce, if she had fought it for another year, it would have ended up costing me about $35,000 a year. Forever or until she died. If I died first, she'd keep getting a good % of it until she croaked. Fortunately mutual loathing won out and I got out under the wire. It would have ruined my life, and she would have gotten a big paycheck every month just for being a bitch.

Originally Posted by Davis Knowlton

your former spouse gets 50% of your retirement, forever, once you retire.

That's disgusting to be a blanket ruling without looking at individual cases. Ten years of marriage does not neccessarily mean the husband has used this poor women and owes her her life and retirement. He's off at war, she's at home eating chocolates in front of the TV and screwing the milkman, and after ten years he returns home and says piss of slut...She doesn't deserve a penny. Mind you, if he was just a cnut and abused her for ten years then took off...she may well derserve some compensation.

In NZ marital property law kicks in after 2 years marriage but does look seriously at contribution, except for the marital home. Pensions do not come into it ever, I think.

My parents divorced when I was 5 ish... remember them fighting one day, throwing glasses at each other... mum picked up a shard of glass and slit her wrist... I ran tried to stop her, she's really strong... couldn't, blood squirting everywhere...she keep madly slashing... still has the scars.

precious family memories boys.... fills me with joy.

bit like za dude's foot long cock....

Originally Posted by Maanaam

Ten years of marriage does not neccessarily mean the husband has used this poor women and owes her her life and retirement.

In my case, we spent 2/9 years in the US while I paid for her Master's Degree. Then, 7/9 overseas in huge houses full of household help. She never lifted a finger in 9/9 years.

Divorced twice. First one was a nightmare after 12 years. The second one went through the tail end of my first, and our start to a 16 year marriage was delayed for a year as #1 hag hung on for money.

Not going through that again, although to be fair to #2, she made it much simpler.

Better to stay single and cohabit as long as possible.

Originally Posted by Switch

Better to stay single and cohabit as long as possible.

NZ, 2 years of cohabitation counts as de facto marriage and all marital property laws apply.

Eventually they are ALL a waste of time and money.

Originally Posted by Maanaam

NZ, 2 years of cohabitation counts as de facto marriage and all marital property laws apply.

I’m not a Kiwi and no plans to live and cohabit there.

Originally Posted by Switch

I’m not a Kiwi and no plans to live and cohabit there.

Just saying for interest's sake....and a warning to those who are thinking of this strategy in NZ.
Go for gold wherever you are

Good thing my wife is great, as the Philippines stands as the only remaining country in the world where divorce is illegal.......not counting the Vatican, which claims to be a country, but they don't really matter anyway as they're all gay, pedos, or both.

Originally Posted by Maanaam

Just saying for interest's sake....and a warning to those who are thinking of this strategy in NZ.
Go for gold wherever you are

I started out with nothing, and I still have most of it left.

The worst she could do is cut my mountain bike in half lol

Divorce: what's my take?

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She pretty much got the lot.

Originally Posted by NZdick1983

precious family memories boys.... fills me with joy.

bit like za dude's foot long cock....

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