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Smeg

A nice photo:

ChiangMai noon

it's very sad news when something like this happens.

he was definitely a very upbeat poster on these forums full of cynical bastards and was obviously very well liked by the many people who had met him.

condolences to all his friends and family.

obsidian

ajarn is at its best when the it can lend its full focus to the incarcerated, the dead or the hopeless. the whole thing is ripe with transference and metaphor. renaming forums, changing av's, signature rip's and beer chugging icons may assist in enableing grief for some. but the real work occurs alone and often has less to do with the deceased than ot does our own fears of mortality, isolation and unknowingness. imo.

condolences to one and all and may we be strong enough to allow some individuality to the process of grief and humans reaching out. imo.

DaveRobin

My sympathies with his family and I'm sure he was a great guy but I didn't know him nor did most people on these boards. So feel the outpouring of grief shown on ajarn is a wee ott. RIP all the same.

Bexar County Stud

It is starting to look like a contest at the moment - who can out emote the next guy.

Mister Fixit

Bit sanctimonious. I'm not sure if he has a child in Thailand, but he has an adult daughter who lives in Australia, who is over here now. I suspect the child in the picture you re-posted is a grand-daughter.

That's essentially what it is. Or at least a place for people in a certain profession to virtually meet. It's a small place, the ex-pat world and there but for the grace of God, etc.

Which is also why I don't think 500 baht or so is a big deal. I never met him in reality, but I enjoyed his posts and upbeat attitude, so consider I 'knew' him through them.

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Mister Fixit

Quite, it does smack of that at times. Here as well as Ajarn.

aging one

He has two grown daughters they are both here now for the funeral.

kingwilly

quite.

and i agree with Smeg, ya gotta get life insurance to cover loved ones.

reinvented

it is a real tradgedy, ive known a few go that way over here
and i know people deal with grief in different ways, i really struggle with fuenerals

but apart from his close friends, and i know a lot of people on ajarn were close to him, it is a wee bit OTT

ajarn doesent have enough cynical bastards CMN, thats why we come here, get away from the inane treehuggers and the shite they sprout

i'll miss his upbeat hijinks posts, and genuinely feel for his family, but methinks some of these peeps have too much time on their hands

heart felt RIP Rury, prayer been said, now life goes on

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obsidian

some truth in this, imo

yes it does.

Smeg

Why is it sanctimonious? I'd say that it is a general and commonly held opinion. And I'd say that you are the one beng sanctimonious, starting threads asking every forum member to hand over money. If you want to hand some over yourself, do so, and allow others the right to make the same decision using their own intelligence without insulting them by presuming that they need to be asked to.

Ajarnforum is an internet forum where anyone on the planet can discuss teaching in Thailand or anything else, and which a few people who don't meet enough friends through other means use to make new friends, both teachers and otherwise.

A trade union is a fee-charging "insurance policy" open to workers in particular trades only of which the main purpose is to provide collective bargaining and welfare benefits.

I see very little similarity between the two. If you do, perhaps you are desperately wishing their was an ajarn trade union so imagining the forum to be it, who knows...

ChalkyDee

Motorcycles are very dangerous, especially for drinkers.Tragic. My sincere condolences.

Mister Fixit

Yes. I met them both tonight. Nice girls. And I also mentioned the thing about bright clothes. They want to wear them because they think he was that sort of guy, and I think I agree with them. It's a family funeral, not a Thai funeral. Let them wear what they think Rury would want them to wear. If that is a bright orange tie-dye T shirt, fine. If they want to play Pink Floyd's 'Wish you were here' (fine and apt choice) then fine.

This is a Farang funeral, not a Thai funeral.

dirtydog

We are all going to die one day, some will be missed, as rury is, he done some great travel threads, just a shame he posted them in ajarn, only kidding before you all get on my back, and some wont be missed, I am so against riding motorbikes in Thailand due to the danger but probably everyday i ride it

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NickA

^motorbikes are pretty dangerous anywhere, not just Thailand.

obsidian

thats what makes them fun.

Bexar County Stud

He did mention in one of his posts about getting caught riding without a helmet by the police. I don't know if this was a factor in his death, I hope not.

A tragic reminder to take care out there on the roads, and more importantly, the only time to make tributes and show respect to someone is when they're alive. It's nice that people can be moved over the passing of people they've never met, but gosh it's a bit like the Princess Di syndrome with all this wreath buying (making sure the donor's name is displayed front and center, love that) and convulsions of grief.

Perhaps I'm too much of an iconoclast. Just thinking of my Dad's funeral, I was not comforted at all by all the hangers on - strangers and folks who hadn't shown themselves in years, but suddenly appear to offer their most earnest heart-felt condolences. Phony baloney.

Torbek

Really? There goes the statue industry globally...

I'm as cynical the next prick...but in this instance, the overwhelming number of posts are actually from people who had physically met him. A bit of a rarity on ajarn.com...and I imagine most online forums.

Besides...what does it matter? His family seem comforted by the outpouring. Why should it bother you?

dirtydog

So has the guy that killed him been arrested?

Or do the thai police just consider it as some dumb farang dead