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    Can you ever do ENOUGH for her ?

    Gentlemen, It seems as though I can never do enough for her. There is no limit to the never ending request to do more for her, her house, her land, her family. Five years of giving and more requested no stop. Do others among us run into that as I have ?
    Before I can finish one project there is a request for another one to be started. First naturally, A house, then build a stone wall, next a shop for a business, another small house for papa cause he doesn't want to climb the stairs to the huge upstairs room I just built for him. He moved in there before I moved in downstairs without so much as a consultation. Bottom line, I am near bailing out of this place and the whole scene just due to the constant pressure to do more. Maybe that is the end result she desires. I have dumped my cash and my soul into this place without recourse. I am just curious if others have experienced the same or I the only pussy-whipped faalng around here ?

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    have never heard this before

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    It seems you picked a rotten apple. You know, you can always say no. That will probably lead to a break up or broken legs however.

    Where did you meet her?

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    ^^^ What is the age gap between you?
    Maybe she isnt with you for your looks after all?

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    Here is my take on this -and I'm not trying to be a smart ass.

    She senses that "you give a shit" so she is going to ask for the moon and then some. As I have observed relationships, some guys that have it good also simply don't give a shit (whether she is happy or not.) Thoe guys are not abusive; however, they do as they please. When the GF/wife starts demanding, they say no and when she threatens to leave, they say... OK

    Some times you got to put yourself first

    Good luck man!

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    Get the hell out while you still can. 5 Years is a long time, what makes you think she's ever going to change? When all the money is gone you will no longer be needed or tolerated.

    Cut your losses and learn from your mistakes.

    Sorry to hear it's gone bad for you, all the best.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bellagrego
    Do others among us run into that as I have ?
    No. You're the very first. Have you met her "brother" yet?

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    Say you will build another bigger better house in the same spot where you have to bull doze the old one down. When down to rubble do a runner

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Muffinman
    Get the hell out while you still can.
    I agree with him.

    I put up with that sort of shit for 13 years.
    I regret waiting so long even if it was for the kids sake.
    Quit now whilst you can

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    Quote Originally Posted by bellagrego
    Can you ever do ENOUGH for her ?
    What a shame you never read this 5 years ago. You probably fell down on number 7 which caused your present predicament.The Bargirls Ten Commandments, 2008 Update

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    bellagrego- Do you have kid(s)? If not, don't put up with it for another day. She will back off on her demands only when she is sure you have nothing left.

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    I'm having cash flow issues at the moment.
    So this morning I went and sold the gold.
    Laosy doesn't know yet.
    Boxing later.

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    This is what constantly amazes me, a Western woman asked you for all this you'd tell her to fok off so why don't people adopt the same attitude with their Asian sisters??? Why do people constantly get cunnt struck by 2 bit ho's????

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    It seems peculiar you ask this after such a long period, five years.
    Anyway, the thing to do is to stop it. They (wife + family) dont even respect you now, when you just cave in to all demands.
    Best of luck, truly

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    Taking advantage of someone is not restricted to any particular race or gender. Sorry it happened to you, but I've known both men and women at home who were thoroughly used by people they loved too much. One of the sadder parts of humanity.

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    Before you outlay any more money, (and because you obviously love/ lust her) tell her you want to put the existing properties under your name and by way of an official 30 year lease agreement.
    3,000.00 Baht that covers your investment and then she is tied to you.

    Your name goes on the back of the land title/ house deeds and this action will prove to you her long/ short term intentions. If she says no walk, if she agrees then do it.

    People also forget that it is the eldest daughter's job to take care of the parents here and her intentions may be bound by custom and according to what you two can afford.

    Test out the waters mate and good luck.

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    cant offer much advice other than whats been offered here, i walked after 5 years of bollix, not pressure for money, but i would say be carefull, it could end rather badly for you

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    Has she ever actually given you anything?

    Get rid of that ungrateful thieving [at][at][at][at].

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    Loy Toys suggestion albeit a little optimistic is the last move before cutting your losses and departing.Staying with her for the kids (if there are any)will only bring you more stress and no appreciation in the end.I stayed for 8 years with my last filipina because of my two step kids.As with your case I provided all and sundry but it was never going to be enough as she focused on scarcity not the abundance she had from me.In the end I was on medication due to the stress, constantly unhappy and even reluctant to go home each night for more of the same treatment. This women bellagrego does not love you or care otherwise she would appreciate you for your kindness.As hard as it will be for you to do the best advice anyone can give you is to exit now without further discussion and maybe you will find a women as I have now that will give you a chance at the happiness your kindness and generosity deserves. Once you take the emotion out of this decision it is so easy to see the path you must take.Don't kid yourself that talking to this woman will change anything,she has clearly displayed to you over the past five years how she regards your presence that being someone whose kindness is simply to be taken advantage of.She is a bitch and I sympathise with you but you are not alone in being so blind to not have seen this before.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aussie Tigger
    Loy Toys suggestion albeit a little optimistic is the last move before cutting your losses and departing.
    How is that action being optimistic?

    The first property I purchased here was firstly transferred into my wife's name and immediately changed into my name and my wife had no problems then and doesn't now.

    It's all about delivery and I explained to my wife if something happened to her the family would move in and kick me out. She agreed and basically the trust and respect between us grew from that point forward.

    Best to be honest right from the outset and as far as I am concerned this is the only way the OP can move forward and gain some respect or his financial freedom.

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    Do people actually get to know a women first these days before moving in with them, marrying them and buying a house etc.???? Maybe i'm just old fashioned.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bellagrego View Post
    Gentlemen, It seems as though I can never do enough for her. There is no limit to the never ending request to do more for her, her house, her land, her family. Five years of giving and more requested no stop. Do others among us run into that as I have ?
    Before I can finish one project there is a request for another one to be started. First naturally, A house, then build a stone wall, next a shop for a business, another small house for papa cause he doesn't want to climb the stairs to the huge upstairs room I just built for him. He moved in there before I moved in downstairs without so much as a consultation. Bottom line, I am near bailing out of this place and the whole scene just due to the constant pressure to do more. Maybe that is the end result she desires. I have dumped my cash and my soul into this place without recourse. I am just curious if others have experienced the same or I the only pussy-whipped faalng around here ?
    You shouldn't have married in first place.
    All women are demanding leeches if you don't keep them at bay , and how can you do that once they are entitled to live under your same roof ?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blake7 View Post
    ^^^ What is the age gap between you?
    Maybe she isnt with you for your looks after all?
    is there even one woman on Earth who is with a man for his look ? Wake up , all of them are with us for our money ! Drop your vanity and face the truth !

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    Quote Originally Posted by wefearourdespot
    is there even one woman on Earth who is with a man for his look ? Wake up , all of them are with us for our money ! Drop your vanity and face the truth !
    That's not necessary true. I know a farang that's married to a older Thai woman and he hasn't got a pot to piss in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by buriramboy
    This is what constantly amazes me, a Western woman asked you for all this you'd tell her to fok off so why don't people adopt the same attitude with their Asian sisters???
    Because Western woman just asks, while Thai woman first blows your dick then asks , and in case of negative answer, she repeats the whole procedure until she gets a yes.

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