What to do about Thai mother in law hell bent on runing my Thai wifes facebook life.

[ota]

Married 12 years, we have 2 little boys and I have two teenage girls from my prior marriage. My wife is asking me what to do. I don't know as I stay off of Facebook. My wife so enjoys talking to her friends from High School/ Her mother is breaking in with her two adult sons to disparage my wife and say she's a bad daughter for not supporting her family. My wife has been very generous.If she gets money from my wife she spends it on gambling. It's just gone and they are demanding more a week later. There is never a stop. So I put a stop to it years ago. Now her mother and brothers found out how to reach her on Facebook. She is embarrassed and says her sense of Thai duty to her mother is being exploited and her on line reputation ruined if we don't kowtow. I won't let my boys have a dire fate because of her family. I say make a statement to friends on Facebook and then resign from it. Period. What else?

Ota

[Strongarm]

Delete her mother from her friends list on Facebook and then block her.

[khmen]

I'm not on Facebook either, unlike every other muppet I know, so I'd say delete the fucking thing anyway.

Tell your wife to get a Yahoo Messenger etc free account and she can then talk to her mates for free and over webcams. Better than Facebook IMO.

Failing that turn all privacy on and unfriend the family, or set up a new account they don't know about but her friends do.

[Aussie Tigger]

I doubt there us any permanent escape from paying the expected never ending dues to ones wifes family. If guilt does not work for them,then they will try all other avenues they can until your wife cracks.
Cutting off the family totally from any funds would be incredibly difficult for most Thai daughters to handle.
You can get individuals access blocked though from your facebook so at least your wife will not have to read their comments.
In time they will stop but can your wife hold strong until they tire of their attempts to drain her financially and emotionally.

[jizzybloke]

Have the nasty old hag killed!

[kingwilly]

Tell her to block and unfriend the hag, easier than letting the mil chase the wife off facebook.

[BugginOut]

She should stay on FB and post her feelings about their behavior and explain in front of everyone why the situation is the way it is by dredging up the past. She should explain that her brothers are grown men who should be gainfully employed supporting their mother's gambling habit but that your family wants nothing to do with it. And then un-friend them.

[Neo]

Get another wife, there's loads of them in Thailand.

[withnallstoke]

and her on line reputation ruined

Teakdoor did that to me.

Sue the bastards.

[OhOh]

and her on line reputation ruined

Teakdoor did that to me.

Sue the bastards.

It went way before then.

I seem to remember a monument in Stoke praising the fact that you left in 1993 after the "troubles". Still to be found in the "Staffordshire News" clippings library.

[somtamslap]

All mother in-laws should be put down at birth - slowly..

[somtamslap]

It went way before then.

Yes, I thought it went after The Great Goose Exodus of 1987?

[Thetyim]

I seem to remember a monument in Stoke praising the fact that you left

Yes, I've seen that.
It has an inscription that says "in foro nomen amisit withnail"

[withnallstoke]

in foro nomen amisit withnail

Vandals again.
It should read "In case we forgot. No men shall blame this twit. Please come back soon and lead us from this pit o great withnall".

[alwarner]

grow up?

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[Simon43]

You have got to be pretty naive to use FaceBook anyway. The default settings for accounts seems to be 'tell the world' and Facebook would happily leave it like that. You need to take positive action to ensure that everyone and his pet dog is not informed about what you had for breakfast and would I like to be your friend.

As others have said - bin FaceBook right now and use Messenger/webcam to keep in touch with your friends.

Oh - and I also agree you should kill the old hag

Simon

[sabaii sabaii]

My Ex Wifes Battle axe of a mother in law went to town on the EX's Facebook account, airing all her dirty laundry in public one night.

The Ex's friends stuck up for her and left her Mom feeling 2 foot tall. Then I blocked and deleted her.

Some people shouldn't be allowed online, think, accepting a friend request from
Withnallstoke

[Khun Custard]

This is not the first, nor the last time I have heard of this guilt trip imposed on Thai daughters by their parents.
It is rare that they are choosing a medium like Facebook - it only serves to bring thier whole family down

Unfortunately, it does seem to be most common in circumstance where :
1) The parents are loosers and see their offspring (and falang husband) husband as an infinite source of income and a pension scheme.
2) The parents have used the daughter as a workhorse for most of their childhood and teenage years - running the family stall, doing all the hard unpleasant jobs, finding a "job" in Bangkok and once they are gone there is no one left to do the hard yards that really brings in the family income.
3) They never invested in thier own nor their daughters education - the harder path to financial independance requiring a comittment way beyond the mental capability and mind set of this generation of socio-economically challenged of parents.

Like all daughters, in a culture that family values and obligation have evolved partially due to absence of government social security schemes and a faith which guarantees reincarnation they do not know what the future will bring and cannot separate themselves from this cycle of obedience. Being married to a much older falang only heightens their greatest fear of being left with no income and kids to feed and educate BUT WORSE...... no family to perpetuate the same wrought she is experiencing!

Mind you the western model of investing in your kids education and letting them lead a better lifestyle than you did then only to be dumped in a retirement home is not the answer either!

OTA, you have take control of this situation, put yourself between the leaches and the lady you love and show them who is the boss.
If you cannot speak Thai find an "go-between" (lawyers like Mr Poppa, just love this type of stuff) and don't be afraid to threaten them with alienating their grand children.

Invariably, these types are spineless when push comes to shove.
This will also give strenght to you wife knowing that (in the worst case) they put their greed above the relationship with your kids.

Alternatively, the best you can do is creating a modest source of income and assisting them financially set up a business - you need to lay down the P&P and let them know there is no more 2nd chances .
If they are sucessful all well and good, if they fail - well, you've done you $$ but the door to your hard earned income is now permanently shut!

[withnallstoke]

Some people shouldn't be allowed online, think, accepting a friend request from Withnallstoke

I have nothing to do with facebook since i accepted a friend request from myself and then lost the ability to log on.
Absolutely no loss.

[Smug Farang Bore]

Get some pics of old maa and photo shop em to ERR say having anal sex with a fish....

...then everyone can have a good chortle...!




Worked for me...!!!

[sabaii sabaii]

^ Nutter hahhaahahahaha

[withnallstoke]

having anal sex with a fish.... Worked for me...!!!

What's it like, just out of interest?

[Thetyim]

^
A lot better than using a traffic cone

[sabaii sabaii]

I dunno,

I haven't seen Thormaturge for a while

[Little Chuchok]

^
A lot better than using a traffic cone

Depends on what end you use I suppose.