Many loved it mate but as I knew a few of the people, or the characters potrayed in that book and Leather himself I found it a bit over the top.Originally Posted by good2bhappy
Maybe I will go back and have another go at it.........one day!
Many loved it mate but as I knew a few of the people, or the characters potrayed in that book and Leather himself I found it a bit over the top.Originally Posted by good2bhappy
Maybe I will go back and have another go at it.........one day!
Too close maybe
(couldn't see the wood from the trees)
Good quick read!
The book was apparently based upon some of the characters that drank in Jools in Soi 4 and the woman character in the book on SL's slapper girlfriend (although he denies this).
I will have to dig it out and clear the undergrowth!
gotta say LT actually this is a bit of a frail excuse..My wife lives and works in Bangkok since I met her and she met my mother back in the states and I met her parents in China before we got married, only just, but we did meet..and I am most certainly not made of money..Originally Posted by Loy Toy
Actually it was necessary for me to go to China as we had to get a review from a Chinese official and get their blessing before we could marry..but either way I would have met them..
agreed.......Upon our visit to China my wife's parents immediately tried to play the heavy and insisted that when our baby was born we would send it over to China for the first 2 years to be with them as that was Chinese custom..I couldn't believe it I thought they were joking...Originally Posted by Loy Toy
But then again it is also Chinese custom for the woman to stay in a dark room for the next month after giving birth and the baby to hang in a net basket for the next month with virtually no touching or contact, they just hang naked and pee and poop on the ground and someone cleans it up there, that's no lie.
Now, that's bollox and my wife agreed especially when I showed her our ways, and obviously I stomped on the idea of sending the baby there as the first 2 years is when the most important parent child bonding occurs and many of the 'first's' happen in a child's life like taking their first steps for example..not to mention the backwards medical and the limited 'village' knowledge and we had a pretty big struggle with my oldest and asthma to the point he was in ICU a couple of times almost requiring a respirator to breath..
since I've been taking care of him he hasn't had a hospitalization for over 2 years *knock wood*...good thing too because we can't afford it either with me not working..
We are much happier, as are our kids, that we broke that chain of bondage, in our case it's been both a curse and blessing not to have any in laws close by..
I knew my wife for 5 years and as a very good friend and before we decided to get together. When we finally did the decision to marry was the easiest decision we both have ever had to make and we married about 2 months after our first personal union. No time to meet the in-laws.Originally Posted by DrivingForce
Really most parents would act humble and obliging at the first meetings but things do change and after the knot is tied.
What are you going to do if the in-laws show their true colours and after you have tied the knot with their daughter. Divorce her because the in-laws don't meet your preconceived perceptions.....?
Yes and yes.Originally Posted by Loy Toy
Both very important, specially in Thailand.
It only becomes a problem when you allow it to become a problem!Originally Posted by spiff
Like most things in life I might add!
sorry again I disagree, all of what I'm talking about happened in the span of about 8 months total but our decision to marry happened in about a month and I spent the next 3 months liquidating my life in the states and arranging my permanent relocation here, I was only here a few months when we were finally able to go to China and meet her parents so it was no years long for me either.. My wife and I are a true life internet couple and didn't even meet for more than 8 months until we worked it out and actually met the first time in Paris..Originally Posted by Loy Toy
Then after that point it was light speed ahead some of it planned some of it not, such as our first child predating our marriage plans..
but in that time with all of those logistics we still managed to meet our respective families..
don't get me confused with one of the others that thinks the in laws (or outlaws as they have been called here) should be that major a part of the relationship choice with your missus as I said I don't think that should keep you from being together if you ultimately so choose...That's between the two of you only especially if she respects your wishes, the choice is really hers.. In the end though many missus mistakenly think the can make the separation and that you just need time to warm up to the family and they try to manipulate that result and for me that's where the sparks begin to fly..Originally Posted by Loy Toy
that's nice.Originally Posted by DrivingForce
what? worked out the marriage already ?and didn't even meet for more than 8 months until we worked it out
so? you trying to prove how romantic you are, or what a jetsetter ?and actually met the first time in Paris..
uuh ha. which chinese custom is that? are they educated people then?Originally Posted by DrivingForce
your story gets better and better, just couldnt make this shit up.Originally Posted by DrivingForce
I didn't say there there would be a problem.
Just think you are missing out on an extra dimension of what marriage is all about. I couldn't imagine being with someone for 5 years and not meeting the parents, unless they live on the other side of the planet. Knowing the family gives, if nothing else, valuable insights into the background and roots of your partner.
Further, chances are she will resemble her mother as she gets older.
^ a 50% chance?
I was not with her during the first 5 years, we knew each other socially only and became good friends over that period and then married afterwards.Originally Posted by spiff
Feck all of this debate started because I mentioned that the male visitor to JJ's neighbour's may not be a lover but a realtive or friend after all.
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