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    Moving in with a Thai girl - yay or nay?

    I'm probably going to get flamed for posting this, but I don't care. Been dating this gorgeous Thai girl (she's a "good" girl, believe it or not) for about 3 months now - she lives on Samui at the moment. Calls me up today and wants to come up here and move in with me in Jomtien. Well, I have no intention of marrying her and I'm only here for a year or so, which I've told her numerous times, although this time it doesn't go down so well. Tears and yes, more tears from her. I tell her she can come up if she wants to, as long as she understands that I'm gone (probably to Japan next) in about a year (got those student loans to pay off). So now she's pretty pissed and I feel pretty shitty as well because I do actually care for her. Swore I'd never do the Thai girl relationship thing, yet here I am.

    Oh, and she's never asked me for money, and I doubt she ever will. She's very nice and we have a ball together, although she's very emotional at times.

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    Paging Poolcleaner. Paging Poolcleaner. Would Poolcleaner please come to the Living in Thailand Forum?

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    Quote Originally Posted by durianfan
    gorgeous Thai girl (she's a "good" girl, believe it or not) for about 3 months now - she lives on Samui at the moment.
    i ahve alwasy hated this differentiation of "good" girls and "bad" girls. but I can understand having to qualify.
    Calls me up today and wants to come up here and move in with me in Jomtien. Well, I have no intention of marrying her and I'm only here for a year or so, which I've told her numerous times, although this time it doesn't go down so well. Tears and yes, more tears from her. I tell her she can come up if she wants to, as long as she understands that I'm gone (probably to Japan next) in about a year (got those student loans to pay off). So now she's pretty pissed and I feel pretty shitty as well because I do actually care for her. Swore I'd never do the Thai girl relationship thing, yet here I am.

    Oh, and she's never asked me for money, and I doubt she ever will. She's very nice and we have a ball together, although she's very emotional at times.
    So have yuo go thte next five years all planned then? teach in Thailand for a whilethen off to japan for teh big bucks pay off the loan travel a bit more then sttle down?
    If she's a good woman will stand by you in thick and thin and you care for (dare I say love?) her; it's the only life you'll have man dont let some "plan" fuck it up.
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    Quote Originally Posted by durianfan
    I'm probably going to get flamed for posting this, but I don't care. Been dating this gorgeous Thai girl (she's a "good" girl, believe it or not) for about 3 months now - she lives on Samui at the moment. Calls me up today and wants to come up here and move in with me in Jomtien. Well, I have no intention of marrying her and I'm only here for a year or so, which I've told her numerous times, although this time it doesn't go down so well. Tears and yes, more tears from her. I tell her she can come up if she wants to, as long as she understands that I'm gone (probably to Japan next) in about a year (got those student loans to pay off). So now she's pretty pissed and I feel pretty shitty as well because I do actually care for her. Swore I'd never do the Thai girl relationship thing, yet here I am.

    Oh, and she's never asked me for money, and I doubt she ever will. She's very nice and we have a ball together, although she's very emotional at times.
    What's the problem?

    One way or the other, you heartless bastard, you are going to make this poor girl cry.
    IMHO, get her in. If she is gorgeous, and it's not just that she's very doable, but really special then she'll prolly save you a baht or ten thousand from those dirty girls at Las Vegas Bar.
    Stick to the plan, fcuk off to japan in a year knowing that if she hasn't got you to impregnate her there will be tears as you say farewell.

    Two weeks ago a farang downstairs dumped his bird and at 3:30am I was awake to hear the screams and the ambulance sirens. She decided she couldn't live without him and tried to end her life...and my good nights sleep I can add!
    So by all means bring her in but be prepared for the sticky end bit.


    When it gets to the sticky end bit see me on the 'Dear Pooly' thread. I've got all the tricks for that as well!

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    I didn't know they had 'good girls' on Samui. Most of the peeps on the island are Thai trash, so well done for finding a good 'un.

    I guess you're still fairly young (in your 20s), so I would say enjoy her for a year and then move on. You're too young to get hitched and there's many more opportunities ahead, so don't be too hasty.

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    Good girls are everywhere. I'm sure, there's some in Samui.


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    Quote Originally Posted by GoW
    Good girls are everywhere.
    Never been to swansea then GOW??

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    DVLA's in Swansea?

    My suggestion's not to listen to what Marmite said. Ignore it please.

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    Swansea, Dear godess is the second city of Wales (after cardiff-the capital)

    The town is rather full of what i can politely call..munters, good girls they are most definitely not.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marmite the Dog
    I didn't know they had 'good girls' on Samui. Most of the peeps on the island are Thai trash, so well done for finding a good 'un.

    I guess you're still fairly young (in your 20s), so I would say enjoy her for a year and then move on. You're too young to get hitched and there's many more opportunities ahead, so don't be too hasty.
    Yeah, I just hate to do that to her. Don't want to hurt her more than I have to - and if I get her in now knowing that I'll leave her in a year, well that just seems shitty - like I'm just using her. Plus, she'll never agree to that. The only way she'll move in is if she knows that I'm not going anywhere. She's already told me that she wants to marry me (I imagine it'll be 500k or more for the dowry - her parents still think she's a virgin), so it may just be for the best to end it now. Selfish I may be, but I honestly can't afford to live in Thailand for more than a year with only 30k a month.

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    Well if she's available for short term shagging and she's as good as you say...

    Why not put up a piccy and we could T-Bay her!

    I don't mind breaking their hearts!

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    Quote Originally Posted by durianfan
    I'm probably going to get flamed for posting this, but I don't care. Been dating this gorgeous Thai girl (she's a "good" girl, believe it or not) for about 3 months now - she lives on Samui at the moment.
    A good girl right? Like someone in this thread said earlier I don't like people being labeled good and bad. Labels are for clothes! So she lives in Samui and you live in Jomtien I take it because that is where you place is. If that is the case you really can't have much of a relationship, based on phone calls is it?

    Quote Originally Posted by durianfan
    Calls me up today and wants to come up here and move in with me in Jomtien. Well, I have no intention of marrying her and I'm only here for a year or so, which I've told her numerous times, although this time it doesn't go down so well. Tears and yes, more tears from her. I tell her she can come up if she wants to, as long as she understands that I'm gone (probably to Japan next) in about a year (got those student loans to pay off). So now she's pretty pissed and I feel pretty shitty as well because I do actually care for her. Swore I'd never do the Thai girl relationship thing, yet here I am.
    This all depends on how strong your relationship is. If you like her that much then surely Japan can wait, no? Can't you find a job over here to pay off your loans? It seems like you have a lovely girl here and these types of girls don't come along all the time.

    The Thai girl thing? Does it not occur to you relationships with Thai women are the same as any other relationship, nothing wrong with it at all. A few culture clashes along the way but there are many happy couples.

    Quote Originally Posted by durianfan
    Oh, and she's never asked me for money, and I doubt she ever will. She's very nice and we have a ball together, although she's very emotional at times.
    I think you are going to have to think hard about this one. How many more girls are you going to meet like her? I see your thread is about moving in with Thai girls but take away the Thai part for a moment. It is moving in with a female. You are going to have to take a think at not only moving in but your relationship and future plans.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ChiangMai noon
    Swansea, Dear godess is the second city of Wales (after cardiff-the capital)
    Thank you!

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    If she really is a good girl and you have done the deed already, she expects you to marry her. If she moves in with you she will consider that you two are married, the piece of paper is just a formality after that.

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    She's a good girl?
    Never met one of them.

    (wondered where all the riff-raff from Ajarn wondered off to.)

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    ^ Welcome Texpat.
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    Jeezzzz..... you guys need guidance.

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    I say go with the flow, take it from someone who has to date lived a carefully scripted life. At the end of the day the only risks you regret taking are the ones you did not take.

    Shit why not take her in, if it works out and your "plans" go to shit so what you are happy. If you take her in and things go bad you bail and follow your original plan a with a few things learned and little lasting damage done.

    On the other hand I am the king of the road not taken so what the fuck do I know.

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    No No No No No.

    If she is being an emotional problem now it can only get worse.

    Paranoid emotional teary women phoning you up an sobbing down the phone is a fucking nightmare.

    Get rid of her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Texpat
    She's a good girl?
    Never met one of them.

    (wondered where all the riff-raff from Ajarn wondered off to.)
    At leest we can spel!!!

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    My general rule of thumb is if you need to ask advice on a message board and can't work shit out for yourself you're probably not mature enough to be in a 'proper' relationship

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    Follow the heart or follow the head ? Are your plans set in stone ? The only good plan is a flexible one. See how things go for a while. You have been honest with her up to now, no need to stop doing that. she is a big girl and can decide things for herself as well. Things will work out or not, but you won't know if you don't try.

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