Friggin' extended families

[David48atTD]

Currently encounced on my throne in the bedroom.

But I'm not alone. I'm watching a 3 year old boy nicknamed Boss, son of 19 yo Eye.

Eye is 'extended family'.

Boss is currently wearing a farmilar path to my boys toybox, spreading assunder every plaything in their possession. He's made this journey more then 10 times now.


I got the evil eyefrom my partner when I said that I'm not the unpaid babysitter to Boss, son of Eye.
Boss has stopped asking me to blow uo ballons for him.

To complete the Family Tree ...

Boss is the son of the unwed Eye (Boss's Dad is MIA)
Eye is the daughter of my partners 1/2 Sister's ex partner.

... and that is just the start of this Funny Farm I call home in the Kingdom.

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BTW, we like Eye, having bought over an entire suitcase of clothes and toys for him that our boys have outgrown.

How's your extended family?

[pseudolus]

This Eye chick - easy on the eye is she?

This thread is USELESS until we see a picture.

[David48atTD]

^ pffft ...

Oh. we have just been joined by Ummm

Ummm is the son of my partners, mothers, sisters, daughters son.

I bought Ummm shoes once, but he prefers running the Farm barefoot.

He lives his Grandma who,in turn lives with the brother of my partners 1/2 sisters boyfriend.
A sugar mummy thing.

The joys of an extended family.

[HuangLao]

Farang no hab connect familial/social extensions.
Kee Kwai.

[NamPikToot]

^ pffft ...

Oh. we have just been joined by Ummm

Ummm is the son of my partners, mothers, sisters, daughters son.

I bought Ummm shoes once, but he prefers running the Farm barefoot.

He lives his Grandma who,in turn lives with the brother of my partners 1/2 sisters boyfriend.
A sugar mummy thing.

The joys of an extended family.

David,

you're gonna waste a lot of time explaining familial linkages, just post up a family tree to refer to although two post in that could take sometime by the sounds of it.

[BoganInParasite]

When I first got involved in my wife I went through the confusion of her good friends being 'sisters'. In trying to get some idea of extended family structure I was looking for references to cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents even. All I got was they were 'relations', but in ten years I have managed to get a few further defined as 'dad relation' or 'mother relation'. Solution once I came to Thailand was to move to Nan. All of the are safely 700 kilometers south in Nakhon Pathom and Kanchanaburi although in what might be an astounding assertion (and perhaps a first for Thailand), all the relations I've met have been fine people and employed. Not a single slacker or illegitimate offspring.

[pseudolus]

Still think that pictures would help

Who is this Pffft person. Easy on the eye is she?

[bowie]

Really don’t know – my extended family is quite large, and quite extended. And pretty much in touch with each other through a fairly tangled web of telephone callings. The social director spends a good deal of her time “talking” to this, that, or the other on, a never-ending list of relatives.

Geographically we extend from Chiang Mai in the North to Pattani in the South and from Chiang Mai in the West to Nong Khai in the East with relatives, well, everywhere in between. These are the ones I’m informed of. Certain I got a bunch in places I’ve never heard of.

They run the full spectrum of “rich” well to do hi so aristocrats to fisherman and rice farmers. Several highly educated, several skilled tradesman, quite a few laborers, taximen, manufacturers, some engineers, artists, teachers, and, of course, some of the ne-er do wells, “fixer” services have been offered to take care of some small problems. Didn’t take ‘em up on it though.

They have a ton of land, several large orchards, a riverside resort, several full-fledged large rice farms, shrimp farms, fish farms, and a slew of shops and markets.

Extended family is so large I can’t keep track of any less the immediate brothers and sisters. Wife’s normal, oh, you remember “her/him/them” they were at……., no, I do not remember them in the least. Some 200+ guests at our wedding twenty plus years ago and no sorry, I don’t remember ‘em.

That being said. Geographic isolation works wonders. We live far enough away that we get few visitors and only for a day of two. Had the Surat Thani group visit for five days a few months ago. We occasionally visit. Road trips when we get bored. Holidays, birthdays, etc.

Our situation works well for me with nothing needing fixing. Relatives can be a most distressing problematic PIA if you allow it. Our extended family exists, they are keep at arms-length less the twenty or so that live within easy commuting distance, and, they, thankfully, are far too busy working to spend much time with us.

[snakeeyes]

A thread without pics is no good just saying , Happy New Year

[Switch]

The Thai extended family acts in the absence of a government sponsored social welfare safety net. Many parts of the West could benefit from such a system. While loosely defined, it is best placed to understand, and react to, individual and collective needs within the group.
Best of all it is uniquely placed as a reliable source of communication and quick response. No government safety net will ever be so good.

[David48atTD]

^ ^ Sorry guys ,.. no hab this computer.

[NamPikToot]

Our situation works well for me with nothing needing fixing. .

HNY to you and the family Bowie. HNY to You and yours too David48.

My extended family ranges from the good, to my Mrs's eldest sister who unfortunately lives up the road. The bitch stole 10K THB from their father on the first night i stayed with the family and blamed it on me - kinda set the tone for my dealings with her ever since. She's kin orible but the family thought she was Gods gift so she got backed initially, +14 years later the scales have fallen from their eye's and she's universally disliked. Got into money trouble a while back, and whilst i am not one to laugh at others misfortune, she got the big fuk off from me.

The rest of the family by and large are varying degrees of OK with some really lovely warm people, some rich, some poor, some dysfunctional - probably same as any family anywhere in the world you'd care to describe. I suppose though its only when the chips are down do you really know and that for my Mrs has occurred a few times over the past few years and we now have a much better understanding of who you really call family and luckily for us there are quite a few.

[Pragmatic]

and that is just the start of this Funny Farm I call home in the Kingdom.

You make your bed you lay in it. Sounds like you didn't publish the ground rules in the beginning. Seems to be a mistake made by many a farang. You're one of many David.

[David48atTD]

You make your bed you lay in it. Sounds like you didn't publish the ground rules in the beginning. Seems to be a mistake made by many a farang. You're one of many David.

Actually Prag, couldn't be further from the truth. But I'm not here to prove anything.

You can choose your life partner, and a key to success is learning how to live with the extended family

[stroller]

Had to ban her fav uncle from visiting after I caught him cheating & stealing. Gotta nail everything to the table and hide the cash with one of her sisters too.
Most others I've met have been fine, don't hang about beyond comfort. Recently got connected to a local crime boss through family marriage -gulp- told me to avoid the cops and come to him if I had problems with anyone.

[tomcat]

When I first got involved in my wife

...tmi...

[jabir]

When I first got involved in my wife I went through the confusion of her good friends being 'sisters'. In trying to get some idea of extended family structure I was looking for references to cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents even. All I got was they were 'relations', but in ten years I have managed to get a few further defined as 'dad relation' or 'mother relation'. Solution once I came to Thailand was to move to Nan. All of the are safely 700 kilometers south in Nakhon Pathom and Kanchanaburi although in what might be an astounding assertion (and perhaps a first for Thailand), all the relations I've met have been fine people and employed. Not a single slacker or illegitimate offspring.

Ditto, a few minor contretemps early on with extended, never with direct, and a fine decade since the lines were drawn, polite and firm.

[Troy]

I remember moaning about extended family, years ago, when I was first here. It took a while to get used to a few of them but they've all been a great help over the years. It's all a bit of give and take and I'm more than happy with my lot.

[Hugh Cow]

Maybe someone can explain to me why there seems to be such a seeming lack of use of the pill by women. I can understand the lack of condom use by men as they just walk away leaving the woman holding the baby. In my extended family there are no females with babies out of wedlock. When asking the good lady Cow why she and her sisters had avoided this, she simply said her father had forbade them from having boyfriends until they had finished University and apparently they had all complied.

[tomcat]

Maybe someone can explain to me why there seems to be such a seeming lack of use of the pill by women

...possibly because a tall glass of lao khao and a horribly stained mattress are cheaper than the pill...

[Hugh Cow]

Please excuse me if I dont rely on your experiences with Thai women TC. No offence intended.

[tomcat]

...don't get picky: you asked for an explanation...

[crazynoonga]

"boss" will be a ladyboy gogo dancer by 14 mate... dont worry.. "family" and "structure" are not a thing in thiailand.. its just a random collection of people who use guilt and emotional manipulation to get things form echother.. hahah. "whai yooo nooo luuuppp mummeee... doo gogo dance foo mummeee" ,, you goooo pattaya get munee

[crazynoonga]

honestly.. low level of education.. the government is not concerned... and low general level of intellect.. form experience averege intellect is loooow.... and really no consequence for pregnancy. the exist in the now only.. . they dont have a concept of social shame for not fathering your child or for being a women with 10 kids from 10 different men... simple... you could be asking why american blacks or the canadian "natives" .. or many other group with such a social structure.. or lack off.. ..

[AntRobertson]

honestly.. low level of education.. the government is not concerned... and low general level of intellect.. form experience averege intellect is loooow.... and really no consequence for pregnancy. the exist in the now only.. . they dont have a concept of social shame for not fathering your child or for being a women with 10 kids from 10 different men... simple... you could be asking why american blacks or the canadian "natives" .. or many other group with such a social structure.. or lack off.. ..

The underlying thesis of your posts -- i.e. that Thais are thick / stupid / blah blah -- is somewhat undermined by your inability to construct a coherent sentence.

Oh, and also the fact that you're obviously a low-class, thick, racist cockwomble.