Where did you meet your wife?

[Neo]

the wife is constantly asked if we know any farangs who want a Thai wife. No need at all to bother with bars. There is an absolute stunning example in the next village who runs her own noodle restaurant.

Pictures please

[CaptainNemo]

I dont think any of us came to asia to find a brain surgeon.

Just brain.

Pack your face slimmer:


Make some faces slimmer and and some necks fatter.

What on earth is wrong with a pic of a Japanese Face Slimmer mouthpiece?!

Japan Trend Shop | Face Slimmer Exercise Mouthpiece

[stroller]

Kept her mouth shut

No good then.
Should have bought her a faceslimmer.

[fishlocker]

Perhaps that chin strap thing.

[poorfalang]

She's stood in while the friend went for a leak

nope, she kneeled in (spelling?)

[BobR]

We all married bar girls but just wont say it out loud.

If where I live is average then it's about 70-80% farang that have married a 'lady of the night'.

And nothing wrong with that. It's their business...if it works, good on 'em both.

What I have more trouble understanding is how, in general, those married to Thai women of limited education deal with the intellectual gap, not to mention an inability of the happy couple to communicate in anything other than elementary school Thai or English (or other language of the spouse).

Gross generalization, as I know some foreigners speak good Thai, and some bar girls speak good English, but I have seen far too many couples who can't communicate on anything but a very superficial level.

Of course this generally improves (I would think) over the years of marital bliss, but it still must be a big speed bump in maintaining a relationship.

Even if you intend to reside in Thailand, taking ones wife to his home country for at least a few months so she could get some understanding of our culture, and where you came from would be a good start. I'm assuming the new wife speaks English well enough to understand what she sees and hears. Anyone who marries a woman who does not even speak his language is hopeless.

Every time I go to the Embassy in Bangkok, I see Americans there with tattooed non-English speaking Thai wives registering their children and simply shake my head in bewilderment.

For an intelligent foreign wife seeing you function competently in your home country would be a good way for her to gain respect for you, and help her understand the inevitable cultural fumbles that happen here. Meeting your family too would also help her realize she has someone who deserves respect.

[Boon Mee]

[QUOTE=Neo;3079850]

the wife is constantly asked if we know any farangs who want a Thai wife. No need at all to bother with bars. There is an absolute stunning example in the next village who runs her own noodle restaurant.

That's been mentioned to me & the missus several times around our area. Even the Pooyai Baan tried to get her daughter (babe material) hooked up with an American. Silly girl went off and married a rice farmer - no farangs to take her away from the farm.

[roger77]

We all married bar girls but just wont say it out loud.

If where I live is average then it's about 70-80% farang that have married a 'lady of the night'.

And nothing wrong with that. It's their business...if it works, good on 'em both.

What I have more trouble understanding is how, in general, those married to Thai women of limited education deal with the intellectual gap, not to mention an inability of the happy couple to communicate in anything other than elementary school Thai or English (or other language of the spouse).

Gross generalization, as I know some foreigners speak good Thai, and some bar girls speak good English, but I have seen far too many couples who can't communicate on anything but a very superficial level.

Of course this generally improves (I would think) over the years of marital bliss, but it still must be a big speed bump in maintaining a relationship.

Even if you intend to reside in Thailand, taking ones wife to his home country for at least a few months so she could get some understanding of our culture, and where you came from would be a good start. I'm assuming the new wife speaks English well enough to understand what she sees and hears. Anyone who marries a woman who does not even speak his language is hopeless.

Every time I go to the Embassy in Bangkok, I see Americans there with tattooed non-English speaking Thai wives registering their children and simply shake my head in bewilderment.

For an intelligent foreign wife seeing you function competently in your home country would be a good way for her to gain respect for you, and help her understand the inevitable cultural fumbles that happen here. Meeting your family too would also help her realize she has someone who deserves respect.

while I agree with most of this, I see that generally most people think its the responsibility of the wife to learn English.
If you take your wife to your country to assimilate,then that is right but if you intend to stay in Thailand then surely its your obligation to assimilate here. I know people who have been here for years and make no effort themselves. In my situation my wife - who just happens to be Thai learnt basic English by reading and using a (crap) dictionary, then later with help learnt basic usable English - its my great embarrassment that although I live in Thailand I still cannot communicate effectively.
If I had the determination to improve myself that she had I'd be giving Tod lessons.

[Rigger]

[QUOTE=Boon Mee;3080005]

the wife is constantly asked if we know any farangs who want a Thai wife. No need at all to bother with bars. There is an absolute stunning example in the next village who runs her own noodle restaurant.

That's been mentioned to me & the missus several times around our area. Even the Pooyai Baan tried to get her daughter (babe material) hooked up with an American. Silly girl went off and married a rice farmer - no farangs to take her away from the farm.

She has to go and have the customary one child to a thai guy before heading to the bar to catch a farang

[Boon Mee]

[QUOTE=Rigger;3080021]

the wife is constantly asked if we know any farangs who want a Thai wife. No need at all to bother with bars. There is an absolute stunning example in the next village who runs her own noodle restaurant.

That's been mentioned to me & the missus several times around our area. Even the Pooyai Baan tried to get her daughter (babe material) hooked up with an American. Silly girl went off and married a rice farmer - no farangs to take her away from the farm.

She has to go and have the customary one child to a thai guy before heading to the bar to catch a farang

No doubt.

Gotta stop by and see K. Pooyai Baan and ask her how little Than is doing. Boy, she had a killer smile on her!

[Gazza]

I met my wife in a Patpong Ping Pong bar. We've been happily married for 25 years and she's presented to me a beautiful daughter, a fine strapping son, a dead goldfish, a ping pong ball marked No2 and a rusty dart.

We celebrated our 25th anniversary recently with a romantic candle-light dinner at a plush restaurant where upon she proceeded to squat on the table and blew the candle out with the aid of a straw and a righteous fanny fart.

Who said romance is dead.

[Stinky]

^ "you must spread the reputation around before giving it to Gazza again"

[Nokturnal]

^ I got him on that one now I'm just not sure if he's serious.

[Neo]

^ same

[Stumpy]

Even if you intend to reside in Thailand, taking ones wife to his home country for at least a few months so she could get some understanding of our culture, and where you came from would be a good start. I'm assuming the new wife speaks English well enough to understand what she sees and hears. Anyone who marries a woman who does not even speak his language is hopeless.

Every time I go to the Embassy in Bangkok, I see Americans there with tattooed non-English speaking Thai wives registering their children and simply shake my head in bewilderment.

For an intelligent foreign wife seeing you function competently in your home country would be a good way for her to gain respect for you, and help her understand the inevitable cultural fumbles that happen here. Meeting your family too would also help her realize she has someone who deserves respect.

BobR,
I couldn't help but laugh at your comment about Americans and the tattooed non English speaking gals in tow trying to get them a visa or whatever they were there for. Sometimes even the mother came with them and they all just sat and couldn't speak to each other at all. The Mom and daughter talked it up. The American guy just sat there totally lost. It took an interpreter to communicate. I, like you, just sat in complete bewilderment of it all. I always wonder how they met, how they pulled off getting married and where in the hell did the kid come from?

But to your other points, I am glad I brought my GF(Now wife) to the US to see it all. Your last paragraph is excellent. It will really help later on and definitely bridges the gap on cultural things as she will understand when I reference something. She has dropped by my company and sees I have a respectful position in the company and people greeted her with lots of hello's and nice to meet you. We have attended work dinner functions and she had fun and got to dress up for the event. My wife has met my entire family and she is now to the point she goes off shopping with my 2 daughters. My daughters really like her and can't wait to come hang at our house in Thailand. She has slowly gotten to understand my car hobbie stuff and knows I like to tinker. She also knows how out of control consumerism is here and knows it is not something you can just turn off(I am trying but it is hard). The big plus is if you do it right you have 2 places to bounce back and forth for a reality reset.

But I will say I can see where some just have a check valve stick and they check out completely. They severe all ties and go to never return. The few I have met that did that did not work out in the end for them.

To stay on topic, I met my now wife in Pink Lao at big open restaurant area near Central Mall on Baromrajchonnee rd. She was on break from the Chao Phraya Hospital.

[stroller]

... The American guy just sat there totally lost. It took an interpreter to communicate. I, like you, just sat in complete bewilderment of it all. I always wonder how they met, how they pulled off getting married and where in the hell did the kid come from?

I am sure no interpreter was needed for making the kid.

[bobo746]

I met my wife in a Patpong Ping Pong bar. We've been happily married for 25 years and she's presented to me a beautiful daughter, a fine strapping son, a dead goldfish, a ping pong ball marked No2 and a rusty dart. We celebrated our 25th anniversary recently with a romantic candle-light dinner at a plush restaurant where upon she proceeded to squat on the table and blew the candle out with the aid of a straw and a righteous fanny fart. Who said romance is dead.

I think i married her sister.

[Stumpy]

... The American guy just sat there totally lost. It took an interpreter to communicate. I, like you, just sat in complete bewilderment of it all. I always wonder how they met, how they pulled off getting married and where in the hell did the kid come from?

I am sure no interpreter was needed for making the kid.

Nope...just a few drinks, a bar fine and a small bungalow should suffice...

[Boon Mee]

... The American guy just sat there totally lost. It took an interpreter to communicate. I, like you, just sat in complete bewilderment of it all. I always wonder how they met, how they pulled off getting married and where in the hell did the kid come from?

I am sure no interpreter was needed for making the kid.

When you've got a Thai Government official advocating poor, ill-educated girls to marry a Farang for a better life and they can learn the fellow's language via 'pillow talk', it makes sense. The Farang takes the gal back to his home country (usually a Euro country) where they even pay for the 'shitty diapers'.

Looks like a win-win all around.

[Headworx]

I met mine in a shopping mall. Saw her and just knew we had to be together. Didn't know how to approach her without seeming creepy so I followed her for a while waiting for the right moment then recited her with some poetry which might sound a bit corny, but it's never failed before. The magic verse was;
Roses are red
violets are blue
I've got a knife
get in the van.

[crepitas]

I met mine in a shopping mall. Saw her and just knew we had to be together. Didn't know how to approach her without seeming creepy so I followed her for a while waiting for the right moment then recited her with some poetry which might sound a bit corny, but it's never failed before. The magic verse was;
Roses are red
violets are blue
I've got a knife
get in the van.

[beachers78]

I met mine in a shopping mall. Saw her and just knew we had to be together. Didn't know how to approach her without seeming creepy so I followed her for a while waiting for the right moment then recited her with some poetry which might sound a bit corny, but it's never failed before. The magic verse was;
Roses are red
violets are blue
I've got a knife
get in the van.

You had me going for a minute Ha ha. I tried this and got 2 dates out of it but the girls were money hungry. I might rethink the rule about not messing around at work.

[beachers78]

Write your name and number on a handful of small pieces of paper and keep them folded in your shirt pocket, now go and get a coffee at a busy coffee shop, malls are best, somewhere with lots of people, when something walk by that takes your fancy whip out a a fold from your pocket and hand it to her with a smile.
You'll get a few strange looks a few giggly blushes and a few that call you back.
It's like selling insurance, it's a numbers game:

Now that is very helpful and a great idea, thank you.

Glad you think so, you do realise that Stinky is posting from the nick. He is doing 12 months for stalking.

Stinky isn't a real name?

[beachers78]

Where did you meet your wife?

Intro at a birthday party.

Any advice is much appreciated.

Advice. They are everywhere. Stores, schools, businesses, restaurants, everywhere - except the bars (although there are exceptions to every rule).

Communications is the key - "chat 'em up". Study and Practice your Thai language skills. Make a serious attempt to communicate in Thai.

Expand your social circle, check out schools and universities for classes, investigate expat clubs, attend Thai games, festivals, holidays, celebrations, temples/wats.

Take your time shopping and eating and chat up the girls - again communication is the key and they are everywhere.

Good luck and keep us informed.

Thanks for this answer.

[beachers78]

I dont think any of us came to asia to find a brain surgeon.

Just brain.

Pack your face slimmer:


Make some faces slimmer and and some necks fatter.

Is this a blow job extender device?