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dirtydog · 27-06-2008, 12:16 AM

So we have my girlfriends long lost sister who she hasn't seen for nearly 20 years visiting Jomtien, she moved from Chanthaburi at a young age and got married in Phuket, suddenly they decided to get reaquantied with the family and travel round Thailand, now I am all for that until I heard what it involved, the picking them up at the bus station aint a problem although in all reality it would be cheaper if they got a taxi, but hell lets not get petty here, they been travelling a lot, what did shock me is that we are expected to pay for a hotel for them, they can't stay at my place as maybe smells of me smoking may waft upstairs and upset them, so we got them a top end hotel in Jomtien with nice sea views, hmm I don't stay at those sort of places but we are paying for them to, this didn't seem a good or fair deal to me.

So there we are whopping out just under 3,000baht for these travelling parasites, one of the other sisters paid for everyones meal at Bang Saray which was just over 3,000baht, I mean fok me we got a lot of money into these peoples holiday and they have done fok all for anybody, and at this time we really cant afford it, my son has just started college and we got loads of bills anyway

so by this stage of the game I was a bit foked off with Thai hospitality.

Then I was suprised, yet again we were splashing out for food to eat at her sisters house in Jomtien, theres me the cynical bstard going aint we spent enough on them cheap cnuts, yeah that didn't go down well with the girlfriend, but fok me you got to draw the line somewhere.

Anyway we get there and the sisters husband has bought the mother a few bahts worth of gold, yep a big beasty chain, just as a present, he wants to pay me to drive him and the sister up North to Surin for a few days to buy cheap land, I explained the fact that when they see white men the prices get increased and it wouldn't be a good idea, plus I got work to do, they also started handing out large notes to all the family, foking weird.

Anyway lets get back to the party in Jomtien, here's some food.

BBQ squid,

He was drugged out of his mind so most of it went on the floor

The bbq shrimp he got on the plate.

as we can see.

Dont look so bad when all the eyeballs and legs are taken off.

Got to keep the Thai people happy with their banana leaf stuff.

SEA Traveler · 27-06-2008, 01:04 AM

Khun DD, I symphonize with your situation. Similar circumstances happened to me with the wife’s family back 13 or 14 years ago. In private, we had a serious discussion on what I thought to be fare and reasonable hospitality to be offered to family members. I mean, I never received similar treatment when visiting family members and was always expected to take care of my own food and hotel bills. Heck, when visiting family members, I was more often than not expected to treat the whole family crew. Not just immediate family but long lost cousins as well. OK, I know the deal now so live and learn. Over the years the message got across and things are a lot better with what I am expected to finance as it relates to family. I must add though, that living out of Thailand in another Asian country and having my wife with me, gainfully employed with the U.S. Govt where she learned the value of what 8 hours a days work is worth.

Hey, it happens but all is on track now. As for your circumstances, well, you have been around the block a few times and you know the ways of the world, I’m sure you will get this resolved to your satisfaction one way or the other. But, what ever you do, assuming that you want to maintain the relationship with your GF,“do it with a smile, calm voice, and in a manner that lets all save face…”

CIAO!

kingwilly · 27-06-2008, 06:34 AM

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Originally Posted by SEA Traveler

But, what ever you do, assuming that you want to maintain the relationship with your GF,“do it with a smile, calm voice, and in a manner that lets all save face…”

Bollox, smack her one, raise your voice and explain that she has made you lose face by making you get angry!

Lorenzo · 27-06-2008, 07:14 AM

Tighten them purse strings DD, don't them buggers know there is a recession going on

Damm nice feed she put out

Khun Custard · 27-06-2008, 09:14 AM

DD - I'm sure we have all bitten once by these expectations - it's how you manage the situation next time with hindsight (and blinding generosity

) that counts.

I'm sure the news of your generosity will travel very fast to all the other relatives.

The first (and last) time for me was an all expenses paid (inc. air tickets) 2 week vacation for the parents in law at our house.
It was then I learnt to fully appreciate the saying "deep pockets, short arms"

Thetyim · 27-06-2008, 11:14 AM

Would I be right to guess this was your GF elder sister. ?

So everyone is forking out for hotel and food for the visitors so that they save enough money to get the old girl a lump of gold.
He gets all the respect for doing it and you get nothing.
Weird people the thai

NickA · 27-06-2008, 11:19 AM

I'm not sure why you agreed to the hotel DD, they can either stay in your spare room or pay for themselves, and they can be treated with some of your wonderful home cooking (you still got that pea soup in the freezer?) whilst they're there... no need to eat out when Chef DD is on town

Ivor Biggun · 27-06-2008, 01:06 PM

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Originally Posted by dirtydog

Dont look so bad when all the eyeballs and legs are taken off.

You talking about the sister or the prawns ?

Thetyim · 27-06-2008, 01:18 PM

If this sister buggered off to Phuket and got married does that mean the hubby never paid a Sinsot ?
Could be a load of "saving face" going on here

Texpat · 27-06-2008, 01:21 PM

Why didn't you take the gang down to 7-11 for gourmet hotdogs?

All the mustard you like. It's on me!

Nuthin' but the best for the long-lost sister and her parasitic attachment.

Anchovy · 27-06-2008, 05:28 PM

Parasitic attachments are common in Thailand, often seen under the guise of chaperones, friends and other excuses not to come alone.

dirtydog · 27-06-2008, 05:35 PM

well it takes a turn for the better

they have made an offer on our small plot of land we own, suprisingly 25 percent more than what we were asking for it, maybe paying their hotel bill etc was a good idea, shall believe it when we are at the land office exchanging money and papers though

Texpat · 27-06-2008, 05:55 PM

Dinging bells, flashing lights, air horns, waving flags!
Sounds like a typical Thai, "I've got loads of money" gimmick.
Barge poles and smelly, rotton things come to mind.

Thetyim · 27-06-2008, 06:32 PM

^
Agreed
Just wait for the "can we pay you 4 baht/day for the next 70 years"

dirtydog · 27-06-2008, 06:38 PM

erm, its worth a bit more than that thetyim, we are talking prime porky worky land

mellow · 27-06-2008, 07:09 PM

No wonder they think Farangs are stupid. Paying for shit that ain't got nothing to do with them.

NickA · 27-06-2008, 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Texpat

All the mustard you like. It's on me!

I don't think he wants them to lick him

SEA Traveler · 27-06-2008, 11:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dirtydog

well it takes a turn for the better

they have made an offer on our small plot of land we own, suprisingly 25 percent more than what we were asking for it, maybe paying their hotel bill etc was a good idea, shall believe it when we are at the land office exchanging money and papers though

But first, "SHOW ME THE MONEY".

What I see happening is a promissory note and then when the land is in their name, they forget about about the note.

But, being the business mane that your are Khun DD, I know that you are a little to smart for that.

SEA Traveler · 27-06-2008, 11:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Texpat

Dinging bells, flashing lights, air horns, waving flags!
Sounds like a typical Thai, "I've got loads of money" gimmick.
Barge poles and smelly, rotton things come to mind.

YUP! My thought exactly.

First, "SHOW ME THE MONEY"!

SEA Traveler · 27-06-2008, 11:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Thetyim

^
Agreed
Just wait for the "can we pay you 4 baht/day for the next 70 years"

Yup! With luck, 4 baht a day. We all know that the meaning of "loan" to a Thai family member means "give".

27-06-2008, 12:16 AM	#1 (permalink)
dirtydog The Dog Last Online: Today 03:52 AM Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Pattaya Posts: 31,885	Thai Party in Pattaya, Thai Generosity So we have my girlfriends long lost sister who she hasn't seen for nearly 20 years visiting Jomtien, she moved from Chanthaburi at a young age and got married in Phuket, suddenly they decided to get reaquantied with the family and travel round Thailand, now I am all for that until I heard what it involved, the picking them up at the bus station aint a problem although in all reality it would be cheaper if they got a taxi, but hell lets not get petty here, they been travelling a lot, what did shock me is that we are expected to pay for a hotel for them, they can't stay at my place as maybe smells of me smoking may waft upstairs and upset them, so we got them a top end hotel in Jomtien with nice sea views, hmm I don't stay at those sort of places but we are paying for them to, this didn't seem a good or fair deal to me. So there we are whopping out just under 3,000baht for these travelling parasites, one of the other sisters paid for everyones meal at Bang Saray which was just over 3,000baht, I mean fok me we got a lot of money into these peoples holiday and they have done fok all for anybody, and at this time we really cant afford it, my son has just started college and we got loads of bills anyway so by this stage of the game I was a bit foked off with Thai hospitality. Then I was suprised, yet again we were splashing out for food to eat at her sisters house in Jomtien, theres me the cynical bstard going aint we spent enough on them cheap cnuts, yeah that didn't go down well with the girlfriend, but fok me you got to draw the line somewhere. Anyway we get there and the sisters husband has bought the mother a few bahts worth of gold, yep a big beasty chain, just as a present, he wants to pay me to drive him and the sister up North to Surin for a few days to buy cheap land, I explained the fact that when they see white men the prices get increased and it wouldn't be a good idea, plus I got work to do, they also started handing out large notes to all the family, foking weird. Anyway lets get back to the party in Jomtien, here's some food. BBQ squid, He was drugged out of his mind so most of it went on the floor The bbq shrimp he got on the plate. as we can see. Dont look so bad when all the eyeballs and legs are taken off. Got to keep the Thai people happy with their banana leaf stuff. __________________ *To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.* The TeakDoor Amulet is guaranteed to protect you from knives and bullets quite often, it will also make you rich and help with those minor erection problems some of you older guys have, so get your free TeakDoor amulet today whilst stocks last. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

27-06-2008, 01:04 AM	#2 (permalink)
SEA Traveler Nakhon Phanom Last Online: 03-09-2008 10:59 PM Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: USA & Ban Chang-Thailand Posts: 517	Khun DD, I symphonize with your situation. Similar circumstances happened to me with the wife’s family back 13 or 14 years ago. In private, we had a serious discussion on what I thought to be fare and reasonable hospitality to be offered to family members. I mean, I never received similar treatment when visiting family members and was always expected to take care of my own food and hotel bills. Heck, when visiting family members, I was more often than not expected to treat the whole family crew. Not just immediate family but long lost cousins as well. OK, I know the deal now so live and learn. Over the years the message got across and things are a lot better with what I am expected to finance as it relates to family. I must add though, that living out of Thailand in another Asian country and having my wife with me, gainfully employed with the U.S. Govt where she learned the value of what 8 hours a days work is worth. Hey, it happens but all is on track now. As for your circumstances, well, you have been around the block a few times and you know the ways of the world, I’m sure you will get this resolved to your satisfaction one way or the other. But, what ever you do, assuming that you want to maintain the relationship with your GF,“do it with a smile, calm voice, and in a manner that lets all save face…” CIAO! __________________ "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff....and it is all small stuff"

27-06-2008, 07:14 AM	#4 (permalink)
Lorenzo Kanchanaburi Last Online: 06-09-2008 11:57 PM Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 187	Tighten them purse strings DD, don't them buggers know there is a recession going on Damm nice feed she put out Last edited by Lorenzo : 27-06-2008 at 09:26 AM.

27-06-2008, 09:14 AM	#5 (permalink)
Khun Custard Nong Khai Last Online: 02-09-2008 05:45 PM Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Not where I want to be Posts: 123	DD - I'm sure we have all bitten once by these expectations - it's how you manage the situation next time with hindsight (and blinding generosity ) that counts. I'm sure the news of your generosity will travel very fast to all the other relatives. The first (and last) time for me was an all expenses paid (inc. air tickets) 2 week vacation for the parents in law at our house. It was then I learnt to fully appreciate the saying "deep pockets, short arms"

27-06-2008, 11:14 AM	#6 (permalink)
Thetyim Senior Member Last Online: Today 12:05 AM Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Phrae Posts: 10,967	Would I be right to guess this was your GF elder sister. ? So everyone is forking out for hotel and food for the visitors so that they save enough money to get the old girl a lump of gold. He gets all the respect for doing it and you get nothing. Weird people the thai

27-06-2008, 11:19 AM	#7 (permalink)
NickA This is not my avatar Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 9,716	I'm not sure why you agreed to the hotel DD, they can either stay in your spare room or pay for themselves, and they can be treated with some of your wonderful home cooking (you still got that pea soup in the freezer?) whilst they're there... no need to eat out when Chef DD is on town

27-06-2008, 01:18 PM	#9 (permalink)
Thetyim Senior Member Last Online: Today 12:05 AM Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Phrae Posts: 10,967	If this sister buggered off to Phuket and got married does that mean the hubby never paid a Sinsot ? Could be a load of "saving face" going on here

27-06-2008, 01:21 PM	#10 (permalink)
Texpat ฝรั่งพูดมาก Last Online: Today 03:01 AM Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Nong Khai Posts: 7,883	Why didn't you take the gang down to 7-11 for gourmet hotdogs? All the mustard you like. It's on me! Nuthin' but the best for the long-lost sister and her parasitic attachment.

27-06-2008, 05:28 PM	#11 (permalink)
Anchovy Ayutthaya Last Online: 01-08-2008 09:46 AM Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the tin Posts: 102	Parasitic attachments are common in Thailand, often seen under the guise of chaperones, friends and other excuses not to come alone.

27-06-2008, 05:35 PM	#12 (permalink)
dirtydog The Dog Last Online: Today 03:52 AM Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Pattaya Posts: 31,885	well it takes a turn for the better they have made an offer on our small plot of land we own, suprisingly 25 percent more than what we were asking for it, maybe paying their hotel bill etc was a good idea, shall believe it when we are at the land office exchanging money and papers though

27-06-2008, 05:55 PM	#13 (permalink)
Texpat ฝรั่งพูดมาก Last Online: Today 03:01 AM Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Nong Khai Posts: 7,883	Dinging bells, flashing lights, air horns, waving flags! Sounds like a typical Thai, "I've got loads of money" gimmick. Barge poles and smelly, rotton things come to mind.

27-06-2008, 06:32 PM	#14 (permalink)
Thetyim Senior Member Last Online: Today 12:05 AM Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Phrae Posts: 10,967	^ Agreed Just wait for the "can we pay you 4 baht/day for the next 70 years"

27-06-2008, 06:38 PM	#15 (permalink)
dirtydog The Dog Last Online: Today 03:52 AM Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Pattaya Posts: 31,885	erm, its worth a bit more than that thetyim, we are talking prime porky worky land

27-06-2008, 07:09 PM	#16 (permalink)
mellow Saraburi Last Online: 06-09-2008 07:10 PM Join Date: May 2007 Location: over the hill Posts: 260	No wonder they think Farangs are stupid. Paying for shit that ain't got nothing to do with them.