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BalconiesR4drinkinon · 08-08-2008, 10:21 PM

I live in Thailand with my girlfriend.

I am currently married to my wife who is Thai but lives in England. We have been married 3 years and separated 18 months ago.

I want a divorce but not in the UK as it is too expensive, she said after she got her permanent UK visa she would come to BKK and we could divorce here and although she is arriving in 5 weeks I doubt she will do it.

I have enquired about divorcing her on my own but I need the marriage cert. and she has that and will not give it me.

I'd run the bit** over if I could, but seriously, am I up shit creek, will I have to divorce her in the UK?

My girlfriend is expecting and I want a British passport for the littl 'un, will being already married affect this?

marry in haste- repent at leisure.

jandajoy · 08-08-2008, 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by BalconiesR4drinkinon

I want a British passport for the littl 'un, will being already married affect this?

Probably not.

As to the rest you need some seriously soung legal advice, mate. My thoughts are with you. Good luck

melvbot · 08-08-2008, 10:44 PM

Im sure the British Embassy wil be quite happy to take 2 or 300 quid from you. Im pretty sure that you dont need to be married to the mother anymore to make the birth legitimate

BalconiesR4drinkinon · 08-08-2008, 10:56 PM

^^ Thanks. I'm just hoping the wife will want to divorce me herself one day. She's got her visa so surely she'll want to move on also, she's bound to have a new fella, so what's the point of her staying married to me?

jandajoy · 08-08-2008, 10:58 PM

Where did you marry your wife?

UK ?
LOS ?

BalconiesR4drinkinon · 08-08-2008, 11:09 PM

BKK, can't remember which office

jandajoy · 08-08-2008, 11:19 PM

Was it registered in the UK?

daveboy · 08-08-2008, 11:27 PM

Thailand-UK Website

Try this site they've got all the answers to this.

jandajoy · 08-08-2008, 11:30 PM

^ Good advice. I'm wondering if there's an arguement that negates your original marriage altogether?

BalconiesR4drinkinon · 08-08-2008, 11:35 PM

well we registered it at the Britsh embassy in BKK, to get her a UK marriage visa

I brought her to the UK and it turned out she had a boyfriend in Switzerland, after I found out I kicked her out. I went to see a solicitor in England and it was going to cost me at least £10k in fees alone,so didn't pursue it further.

BalconiesR4drinkinon · 08-08-2008, 11:41 PM

I suppose my question should be, how does a UK citizen divorce a absent wife?

Texpat · 08-08-2008, 11:57 PM

If she can prove you've got a pregnant girlfriend, you'll be in a world of hurt if she wants to bust your balls.

jandajoy · 09-08-2008, 12:05 AM

Shit mate, get some legal advice asap.
Where's William?

astasinim · 09-08-2008, 12:17 AM

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Originally Posted by BalconiesR4drinkinon

I suppose my question should be, how does a UK citizen divorce a absent wife?

5 Years separation I think. You can also divorce on the cheap, if both parties can agree on a settlement. Do all the paperwork yourself, and submit to a crown court.
Cost is around £200ish

jandajoy · 09-08-2008, 12:28 AM

I'm not sure on this but I thought there was a 2 year thing

astasinim · 09-08-2008, 12:35 AM

Should have said 5 years if she wont sign anything.

jandajoy · 09-08-2008, 12:45 AM

Get a fokin lawyer on side. Get the ex into LOS, and bin it. In the mean time you might make the GF low profile.

andyirish57 · 09-08-2008, 02:10 AM

It would cost you about £150 to get a Divorce in the UK if you do it yourself.
She cannot refuse to give you a divorce in the UK.

jandajoy · 09-08-2008, 02:10 AM

^ Now that sounds good.

BalconiesR4drinkinon · 09-08-2008, 08:46 AM

^ I'll look into it again when I go back to the UK. I'm just worried that if I divorce her in the UK, she'll be entitled to half my savings, I've not got a house over there though...

She doesn't know anything about my private life over here.

many thanks for your comments.

good2bhappy · 09-08-2008, 09:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BalconiesR4drinkinon

well we registered it at the Britsh embassy in BKK, to get her a UK marriage visa I brought her to the UK and it turned out she had a boyfriend in Switzerland, after I found out I kicked her out. I went to see a solicitor in England and it was going to cost me at least £10k in fees alone,so didn't pursue it further.

So she was from where?

panama hat · 09-08-2008, 10:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BalconiesR4drinkinon

^ I'll look into it again when I go back to the UK. I'm just worried that if I divorce her in the UK, she'll be entitled to half my savings, I've not got a house over there though...

She doesn't know anything about my private life over here.

many thanks for your comments.

Easy answer to that - liquidate your possessions and take your money out of the bank and give it to your parents to take care of until after.

As for getting married three years ago to a Thai, then separated 18 months ago . . . now you have another Thai lady-friend and she is pregnant? Wow, what is the hurry? (No judgments from me, just bewilderment)

Travelmate · 09-08-2008, 11:04 AM

The best thing you can do is get all your assets hidden and then preceed to have open affairs in front of her very eyes. Then she will divorce you. Gotta make her do it.

good2bhappy · 09-08-2008, 11:12 AM

under English law you won't be able to hide it easily.
The courts will issue orders to search!
If you flount it as you say the courts are not going to make it easy on you.
Divorce her on the grounds of infidelity and try to prove she had a previous bf and was just using you to get a visa!

DrAndy · 09-08-2008, 03:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BalconiesR4drinkinon

well we registered it at the Britsh embassy in BKK, to get her a UK marriage visa

I brought her to the UK and it turned out she had a boyfriend in Switzerland, after I found out I kicked her out. I went to see a solicitor in England and it was going to cost me at least £10k in fees alone,so didn't pursue it further.

lovely, a Swiss roll

as for solicitors in UK, those fees sound like nonsense

If you are married already, you can still register the child as yours at the Embassy, so he/she can get Uk citizenship

you can keep your g/f as a common law wife until you eventually get a divorce, but no hurry. Your wife is entitled to half of your savings but only if she knows where they are! as was said, you can "give" them away, then you don't have them any more.

If the divorce is uncontested (she agrees) then you can divorce after 2 years marriage; if not, I think 5 or 7 years, as was mentioned. BUT you can divorce her at any time on the grounds of permanent breakdown of the marriage, mental cruelty (having another boyriend)

08-08-2008, 10:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
BalconiesR4drinkinon Member Last Online: 09-07-2012 08:14 PM Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Rangsit & Singapore Posts: 175	How do I divorce my Thai wife? I live in Thailand with my girlfriend. I am currently married to my wife who is Thai but lives in England. We have been married 3 years and separated 18 months ago. I want a divorce but not in the UK as it is too expensive, she said after she got her permanent UK visa she would come to BKK and we could divorce here and although she is arriving in 5 weeks I doubt she will do it. I have enquired about divorcing her on my own but I need the marriage cert. and she has that and will not give it me. I'd run the bit** over if I could, but seriously, am I up shit creek, will I have to divorce her in the UK? My girlfriend is expecting and I want a British passport for the littl 'un, will being already married affect this? marry in haste- repent at leisure. __________________ "...if he's the best, then I'd hate to see the worst" - Harry Redknapp on Premiership referee Howard Webb

09-08-2008, 08:46 AM	#20 (permalink)
BalconiesR4drinkinon Member Last Online: 09-07-2012 08:14 PM Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Rangsit & Singapore Posts: 175	^ I'll look into it again when I go back to the UK. I'm just worried that if I divorce her in the UK, she'll be entitled to half my savings, I've not got a house over there though... She doesn't know anything about my private life over here. many thanks for your comments. Last edited by BalconiesR4drinkinon : 09-08-2008 at 08:51 AM.

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08-08-2008, 10:44 PM	#3 (permalink)
melvbot Hello World Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Infinite Loop Posts: 5,936	Im sure the British Embassy wil be quite happy to take 2 or 300 quid from you. Im pretty sure that you dont need to be married to the mother anymore to make the birth legitimate

08-08-2008, 10:56 PM	#4 (permalink)
BalconiesR4drinkinon Member Last Online: 09-07-2012 08:14 PM Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Rangsit & Singapore Posts: 175	^^ Thanks. I'm just hoping the wife will want to divorce me herself one day. She's got her visa so surely she'll want to move on also, she's bound to have a new fella, so what's the point of her staying married to me?

08-08-2008, 10:58 PM	#5 (permalink)
jandajoy Thailand Expat Last Online: 11-12-2012 08:39 AM Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 19,642	Where did you marry your wife? UK ? LOS ?

08-08-2008, 11:09 PM	#6 (permalink)
BalconiesR4drinkinon Member Last Online: 09-07-2012 08:14 PM Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Rangsit & Singapore Posts: 175	BKK, can't remember which office

08-08-2008, 11:19 PM	#7 (permalink)
jandajoy Thailand Expat Last Online: 11-12-2012 08:39 AM Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 19,642	Was it registered in the UK?

08-08-2008, 11:27 PM	#8 (permalink)
daveboy Knows fok all Join Date: May 2006 Location: SE London Posts: 4,813	Thailand-UK Website Try this site they've got all the answers to this.

08-08-2008, 11:30 PM	#9 (permalink)
jandajoy Thailand Expat Last Online: 11-12-2012 08:39 AM Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 19,642	^ Good advice. I'm wondering if there's an arguement that negates your original marriage altogether?

08-08-2008, 11:35 PM	#10 (permalink)
BalconiesR4drinkinon Member Last Online: 09-07-2012 08:14 PM Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Rangsit & Singapore Posts: 175	well we registered it at the Britsh embassy in BKK, to get her a UK marriage visa I brought her to the UK and it turned out she had a boyfriend in Switzerland, after I found out I kicked her out. I went to see a solicitor in England and it was going to cost me at least £10k in fees alone,so didn't pursue it further.

08-08-2008, 11:41 PM	#11 (permalink)
BalconiesR4drinkinon Member Last Online: 09-07-2012 08:14 PM Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Rangsit & Singapore Posts: 175	I suppose my question should be, how does a UK citizen divorce a absent wife?

08-08-2008, 11:57 PM	#12 (permalink)
Texpat I am in Jail Last Online: 18-05-2013 11:51 PM Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Nong Khai Posts: 12,261	If she can prove you've got a pregnant girlfriend, you'll be in a world of hurt if she wants to bust your balls.

09-08-2008, 12:05 AM	#13 (permalink)
jandajoy Thailand Expat Last Online: 11-12-2012 08:39 AM Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 19,642	Shit mate, get some legal advice asap. Where's William?

09-08-2008, 12:28 AM	#15 (permalink)
jandajoy Thailand Expat Last Online: 11-12-2012 08:39 AM Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 19,642	I'm not sure on this but I thought there was a 2 year thing

09-08-2008, 12:35 AM	#16 (permalink)
astasinim Small Member Last Online: 20-05-2013 01:59 PM Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 3,713	Should have said 5 years if she wont sign anything.

09-08-2008, 12:45 AM	#17 (permalink)
jandajoy Thailand Expat Last Online: 11-12-2012 08:39 AM Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 19,642	Get a fokin lawyer on side. Get the ex into LOS, and bin it. In the mean time you might make the GF low profile.

09-08-2008, 02:10 AM	#18 (permalink)
andyirish57 Member Last Online: 14-05-2013 07:17 PM Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 227	It would cost you about £150 to get a Divorce in the UK if you do it yourself. She cannot refuse to give you a divorce in the UK.

09-08-2008, 02:10 AM	#19 (permalink)
jandajoy Thailand Expat Last Online: 11-12-2012 08:39 AM Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 19,642	^ Now that sounds good.

09-08-2008, 11:04 AM	#23 (permalink)
Travelmate I am in Jail Last Online: 20-06-2012 03:24 PM Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 5,530	The best thing you can do is get all your assets hidden and then preceed to have open affairs in front of her very eyes. Then she will divorce you. Gotta make her do it.

09-08-2008, 11:12 AM	#24 (permalink)
good2bhappy Thailand Expat Last Online: 20-05-2013 03:11 PM Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Klong Samwa Posts: 14,862	under English law you won't be able to hide it easily. The courts will issue orders to search! If you flount it as you say the courts are not going to make it easy on you. Divorce her on the grounds of infidelity and try to prove she had a previous bf and was just using you to get a visa!

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